If you are then embrace what you are. You are a submissive.
If you ask people to tell you which is better; to be a people-pleaser or a doormat. They will all say people-pleaser, obviously.
But ask them to tell you the differences between the two and the conversation changes. Suddenly it’s not so easy.
They share the same characteristics but yet one is negative and the other positive. The truth is that they are equal. Both doing for others selflessly and taking the pleasure of the one being served as a reward.
The real difference is not about you, although you are the one who is made to feel bad or less than.
The truth is that whether you are seen as a people-pleaser or a doormat all depends on whom you serve!
Ask yourself, is the person that you are pleasing grateful and kind to you or is that person greedy or abusive?
It is the taker that determines whether the giver is good or bad. Yet the giver is the one that society tells to change and to stop being used.
This creates a situation where mental health must be sought by the individual, and cannot be guaranteed by some automatic acceptance of socially imposed rules of feeling and conduct.
Read that sentence again and really understand what I am telling you.
Acceptance of these socially imposed rules of how you should feel and conduct yourself will not lead to a healthy mental state.
Only acceptance of what you are inside, deep down, at your core can liberate you from your suffering.
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