Have you ever experienced when your hyperactive friend turned into an extremely quiet person? You tried your best to find out what is going on; if he sick or is there anything that bothers him. Despite the fact that you are showing a sincere concern, he didn’t answer back and just remain silent. This is one of the annoying situations that most of us didn’t like. You don’t know where to put yourself and can’t decide whether to keep on comforting him or just go away because it seems like he doesn’t want to talk with you.
How can you understand a person’s true feelings if he is not willing to share his troubles with anybody?
On the other hand, it feels good when a friend is more open about his emotions. Though it will not guarantee that his problems can be solved immediately, listening to him can definitely ease the burden. You must appreciate a person who never hesitates to speak his thoughts because it’s a proof that he trusted you so much. It would be nice to be part of someone’s life and to be his living diary, isn’t it? Besides, there’s no harm in being a little more passionate and kind to the people around us.
However, it’s not always easy to be appreciative when someone is opening his emotions to us. For example, your daughter opens up how happy she is because finally, his longtime crush is now courting her. As a parent, your child’s happiness should be your happiness, but you are also worried that she’s too young for a relationship. Instead of losing your temper and tell her words out of anger, try to understand your daughter. Don’t let her feel that you don’t care or else she may never be comfortable to have conversations with you in the future.
Make sure that you taste your own words before spitting it out. If it doesn’t taste good, it is better to keep it on yourself.
There are situations that need more dosage of tenderness specially if someone is sharing his heartbreak. Yes, we are thankful that they choose us to stay with their sides during these moments but sometimes it feels a bit tiresome. I’m not saying that you are tired to be his friend or tired of listening to his problems, what I mean is that you are tired of seeing him crying for the same reason over and over again. If his brother died and share with you his sadness for almost 5 years or his girl is cheating on him and yet he still deeply in love with her, you must understand him.
Your role is to hear his sentiments and make a comforting advice but never force your advice on him.
Appreciating others for sharing their feelings can also be a life-saving move. Depression can lead to suicidal acts and one of the strong weapons to fight it is to have a heart that is willing to listen and share their sorrows. If you feel irritated about his never-ending complications in life, just ask yourself if you also want the others to be irritated every time you need a companion to lean on. Appreciate others and they will appreciate you as well, ignore them and you will live with emptiness.
When people are opening their emotions with you, accept them with open arms. They trusted you about this matter so don’t take them for granted.
Philosophy in life worth pondering:
- One life to live, Real Life is hardcore
- DOING THE RIGHT THINGS OR DOING THE THINGS RIGHT
- DOES TRUTH NEEDS EVIDENCE
- THE FEAR OF LOSING WHAT YOU NEVER HAD
- WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO OWN YOUR EMOTIONS? @ecotrain QOTW
- TO LOVE AND BE HURT OR NEVER LOVE AT ALL
- CAN YOU BE TRULY HAPPY WITHOUT MONEY
- CAN PEOPLE REALLY CHANGE
- HOW SHOULD YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE
- HOW OPEN ARE YOU ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS TO OTHER PEOPLE? @ecoTrain QOTW
- TO BE LIKED OR TO BE RESPECTED
- WHAT WOULD YOU WANT TO CHANGE IN THE WORLD
