How to maintain a distance relationship
Hello friends of stemit today I bring this issue that lives today some of the Venezuelans who many times separated by seeking economic help in another country. No one has said that distance relationships are easy, but it also means that they have to be ruined. With the right commitment and communication, distance relationships can be more stable than geographically close ones. Simple modifications in your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life. Preserve normality when possible.
1 Keep in touch. Because you will not be seen in person, it is important to establish and maintain an emotional connection as often as possible. These should not always be long and deep conversations. Frequent communication, no matter how insignificant, will show that they are sufficiently interested in investing time and effort in the relationship, and it will be easier to keep up with their lives.
- Learn your partner's preferred method of communication. Be sure to try a variety of technologies to determine what works best for both of you. They could send text messages, emails or make video calls by FaceTime to keep up with the small daily details of their lives.
- Organize your schedules. If you know that you will be too busy to communicate, let your partner know in advance and try to keep in touch as well as possible. If you are not as busy as your partner, stay flexible and focus on something that is of interest to you.
2) Talk about mundane and small things. Do not believe that every conversation should be a serious discussion about your relationship, hopes or dreams. Instead, focus on the small things that couples living together would do, such as shopping, doing chores, or redecorating. This will give them the feeling of creating a home together, something that both of them can long for.
- Talking about boring or mundane things in your life can also foster relationship and interdependence, which is the basis of every relationship.
3) Visit regularly. Try to take the time to visit as often as possible or as long as your budget allows. They need to see each other in person at every opportunity. Make a schedule of regular visits or at least make plans for the next visit as soon as the last one is over. Face-to-face communication is as important as having satisfaction, commitment and trust in the relationship.
- Create your own rituals around your visits, such as eating at a favorite restaurant, enjoying a quiet night together at home or sharing a favorite activity.
- Facilitates the logistics of the trip so that it does not stand in their time together. Agree on a meeting point at the airport or the train station. Learn to travel with a suitcase or leave the basic implements in your partner's house to save you the time you spend at the airport.
- Meet away from home sometimes. Visit a place that is new to both or choose one that is halfway to the places where they live.
4) Try to get to know each other more. As with any relationship, they should spend time getting to know each other and understanding each other. When they speak, write down the things your partner likes most (such as their hobbies or daily activities) and do some research so that you have something else to talk about.
- Knowing the preferences of your partner will also be useful to both when they want to exchange gifts, which is another way of expressing their feelings at a distance.
5) Remember that your partner is a human being. Distance increases affection, but it can also make you idealize it. While this can make the relationship stable, extreme idealization (thinking your partner is perfect) will make it more difficult to meet with the real person.
- Maintain a daily communication about their daily lives will help you humanize your partner and to be aware of the changes that could happen.
6) Support each other, even through distance. Support your partner in case you have a problem, are injured or for whatever reason. You need to be available to help her so that she knows that you care. If your partner ends up dealing with important issues alone, he will eventually stop needing you.
- Interdependence can be seen in everyday activities such as when committing to decisions and in long-term behaviors such as quitting smoking.
7) Develop confidence. Trust in a relationship is vital, regardless of distance. [Do your best to be faithful and avoid temptation. If you make a mistake, it is especially important that you be honest and tell your partner the truth in cases where lying would benefit you. For example, if you put yourself in a position of temptation (like going to a bar), lying about your whereabouts would benefit you personally, but honesty would benefit your relationship.
- The constant use of email and online resources can help cultivate trust in romantic relationships.
8) Commit yourselves to each other. Be open and honest when voluntarily revealing private information. They must commit themselves morally to each other, and continue with the relationship for personal values
and not for social pressures. Personal values
include beliefs such as "Staying faithful is part of my identity." On the other hand, social pressures imply the perception of the approval or disapproval of society. For example: "My mom would be devastated if she cheated on my girlfriend and she broke up with me".
- Pay attention to the behaviors where your partner tries to manipulate you to do something that only benefits her, such as lying about an emergency so that you answer the phone during an important business meeting. If dishonesty and manipulation become a part of your communication, then you should reconsider the reason why your relationship lacks confidence.
9) Do not do anything irrational just because you are angry or upset about something she said or did. The comunication is the key. If they have a problem, then talk about it. This will strengthen your confidence and create a stronger bond. You can not maintain a relationship if you are afraid that I will do something to you because you did something to be angry.
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