Hmm...I am looking forward to the long version of your response...the short version has me thinking that blame must not be helping your condition if you're still experiencing it. So, from a productive perspective: get it treated if it bothers you; avoid fluoride compounds going forward (for reasons beyond the health and appearance of your teeth); and take responsibility for your dental health going forward by doing your own research.
RE: Is there room for blame in an empowered mindset?