It happens that in matters of self – determination people listen to anyone except themselves-to friends, parents, teachers or leaders. They blindly follow the expectations of society. And sometimes this abstract idea of compliance becomes a personal tragedy. For example, a girl Manager can work in her company for about five years, get a good salary, enjoy the respect of colleagues. At the same time, her career will be approved by her husband and parents. But every morning, coming to the workplace, she will feel disgusted with their work. And soon this disgust will grow into dislike to other employees and in General to walls of the employer company.
If a person is wondering how to find his place in life, then at least he realizes that he does not occupy this place at the moment. This situation is not uncommon. But the task to get out of it can be a real challenge. If a person is not in its place, it is unlikely to help even a long vacation. Therefore, to change something in your own life, sometimes you have to ignore the opinion of others, and-Oh, horror! – their comfort.
Well, if our imaginary office heroine will have a clear understanding of where it seeks. For example, she is fond of knitting, for which she has time a couple of times a year – after the celebration of The new year and on the third weekend of may holidays. Then she can at least start saving money and develop a plan to open a future online store of knitted things. Or, by resigning, she can knit things to order, conduct master classes.
But what if the person is not only out of place, but also does not know what is the matter of his life? Consider several ways that will help you determine your calling.
To determine the source of pleasure
The first thing to do in this search is to identify the occupation that gives pleasure. In these moments, by definition Mihaya psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the author of the concept of "flow", time passes very quickly, one feels the fullness of its activities. To find a calling, you must not just choose a profession in which you can perform a certain social role. The search for vocation and profession are not two identical to each other in the process. To find their purpose, a person needs to understand what he would want from his life, and not what kind of social mask he needs to wear.
Look outside
But keep in mind that the source of inspiration is always outside. They say that you need to look for a calling in your own inner world. However, sitting in a Lotus position and meditating for days on end, it can not be found. The easiest thing you can do is to go to the outside world, try as many different activities as possible. And after that, determine which of them is the most exciting.
Because the desire to do the thing that you will like and which also do not fulfill anyone else, is in fact a necessity. And the means to meet the needs are always in the external environment. Feeling hungry, a person prepares food or goes to a restaurant. That is, to meet a specific need, refers to what the outside world offers.
To identify several areas
Many believe that their vocation should be to any one particular business. In fact, sometimes it happens-a person wakes up in the morning, and realizes that most of all in the world he wants to paint pictures, play the harp or paint Christmas toys. But this is not always the case. People can do one thing, then, sated, or even after experiencing emotional burnout, go in a completely different area. This often happens, for example, to educators and psychologists. What seemed like a lifetime's work took too much effort to keep doing it any further. Moreover, it is not always possible to establish an equality between the purpose of life and the source of income.
How to find yourself in life, and understand what to do? To do so, several areas of work may need to be identified.
Everyone should be able to provide for themselves. And this is not always the case coincides with the calling. Here should be taken into account the delicate point: in this case, the work that generates income, should allow you to do and favorite thing while it is in the hobby stage.
Passion for business and the demands of the world
It is necessary to be able to correlate their skills and Hobbies with the requirements of the modern labor market. This is one of the most profitable strategies. For example, dancing hobby can be turned into a source of income, having got a job as an instructor in the nearest club, or even opening your own school.
Sometimes it happens that a person considers himself a creative person, whose talent was unclaimed in a cruel world. Then he needs to reconsider once again the ways in which he implements it. For example, some artists refuse on principle to special education or work in the design field, stating that for them, drawing is something more than customer satisfaction.
However, in this case, the question of finding a calling acquires a different character – because to become a really high-paid and sought after professional can only have talents and abilities in a certain field. Refusing to earn through the use of their talents, a person much narrowed his choice. After all, one way or another, he will have to make a living by means of routine work, to which he has no interest.
It is possible to consider further an example with "the free artist". Such a person could really get a design education and get good money working for a company. This would not prevent him from continuing to engage in "high art" in his spare time.
So, finding your place in life is a complex task, especially for an adult. To change the scope of activities is a critical step. It is even more difficult to understand in which direction to move. However, having managed to find the true place under the sun, it is possible to turn gray monotonous everyday life into bright, saturated life.
