No matter how trite, but in our time, silence is still the gold, and the question of how to learn to be silent, not only of concern to believers and submissive people, but also quite secular and nature.

When you need to be silent?

To say we all sooner or later learn, but after that it will be useful to learn how to be silent. It is necessary not only during quarrels or provocations, but also if you have Napoleonic plans: it is better not to share them. Useful is the art of gossip and chatter. By the way, men are huge gossips and many ladies in the entertainment tucked in his belt. But you never know when you just need to close your mouth. Sometimes we can talk someone's know-how or secret between business, and sometimes we just spill all energy: bragging, we cause envy, and it can take away what you are so proud of and dream to share with the whole world.

There are many other reasons for silence:

If not quite right companion, but it bug you too much will not bring harm should Not be our concern misconceptions of others: leave them the right to them, although wrong, but opinion. Yes, and your peace of mind more than the mistakes of others!

• If you know someone's secret or has yours. Tell everyone the hunt, but don't need it;
• You state your opinion, but the interlocutors and listeners are wrong, do not share it and do not want everything to be your way. But your opinion is no one takes, and therefore don't need to grovel;
• If you do not want to listen, distracted and interrupted. It means they don't want to talk to you. So why waste energy on someone who doesn't need it;
• Man wants you to listen to him. ;
• If a person is inadequate and aggressive. It is better not to provoke and be silent, poddakivaya. The same applies to drunken or drug addicts, as well as the elderly;
• You don't have enough knowledge about the subject you're discussing. It's okay to be shy about your own ignorance.
• You are offered to gossip and discuss someone or false and negative information. Listen, but keep quiet. ;

Learning to be silent: practice

• During a call, just thinking that you're smarter and more prudent companion. May he indefinitely provokes some words or an argument, your task is to be wise, that is, away from the argument and not try to argue with someone who is not right.In addition, the truth is always somewhere in the middle of opinions;
• Formulate the goals of all your conversations. If to convince someone - not your task, do not even get into the dispute;
• If the conversation you dislike or even hate, imagine the interlocutor absurd and ridiculous. An unpleasant gossip girl grandmother and a pessimist can be imagined by a Baba-Yaga in a mortar, an evil boss-a cat with a fish in her teeth, etc.
• If the interlocutor speaks too much, and it is impossible to interrupt him, as well as to leave, and information from him is not very interesting and you do not need – abstract, imagine a voice in the form of some sound. If this abuse and unfair charges, imagine that, a barking dog, if the person is showing off and it's frustrating – imagine that quacks is a duck…
• The easiest way to remain silent is to count to ten. During this time, you can think any thought and to - Express it, or to abandon sound.
• More often visit alone. If you do not like talking to yourself, that is exactly what will help wean from the chatter;
• Breathe! If you want to wait for the other party a lot of need and not the information – inhale and exhale several times in a row;
• Take your mouth. No, not food and not a cigarette, but water, tea or chewing gum!
• Be cured of egoism! He provokes us to talk without interruption and load all the unnecessary information!
• Make a new friend who will always tell you: "Shut your mouth!".
• Get a player and headphones that will protect you from unnecessary conversations, and hence the stupid bashing;
• Try to put all your fiery speech in three sentences: do not repeat the same thing several times in different variations and remove speech debris;
• Switch all your energy to something more useful and current than stupid conversations: you can work, for example, or hobby, volunteer, do sports…
• Live your life, don't discuss other people's problems!

And remember that the man who learned to be silent – even smarter.