I’m starting to see the world from a perspective that each of us as humans have our own constructed virtual experience in our minds and therefore our “realities” are as unique as our own individual life experience, DNA, belief stories, etc. We ratify and justify our views of the experience we’re having based on further experiences such as relationships, information through media we consume, direct mystical experience, traumas, Shadow, etc.
This isn’t that far of a jump for most people as experiments have shown what goes on in the brain involves working with a constructed interface of reality, not reality itself. It’s the map, not the territory. The classic example of the rubber hand hit by a hammer causing distress drives this home. See the body transfer illusion Wikipedia page and watch the videos if you haven’t seen them before.
Taking it a step further, and this is a leap for most, myself included, is the idea that even what we call “physical matter reality” is individualized via our own unique datastreams. This idea becomes plausible if we accept the potential for consciousness to be fundamental, not physical matter. What we consider physical matter reality might, in a fractal correspondence way mimicking our brain (“The All Is Mind; The Universe Is Mental”), be individualized as a virtual reality experience within a larger information system. Different people experiencing different realities using different perspectives to solidify their own unique reality.
When we occupy the same physical space (or at least perceive that we are doing so via our data stream), we can interact from our different realities, like soap bubbles floating through the air that temporarily touch each other and connect, and then disconnect and float off again. There’s something about being in the same physical space that creates a connection between disparate realities. Heart math has a bunch of studies related to the electromagnetic fields created by the heart around our bodies and how those fields interact with each other. Maybe that has something to do with it.
Maybe there is no reconciliation between some realities that are so far away they can’t even conceive of each other. Have you had this experience with someone before? While in person together, you can be pleasant and social and your realities seem to “work” together well enough if things are kept at a surface level. Later, online, there’s a lot more “WTF are you even saying?!?” going on when you try to make sense of their reality and they try to make sense of yours. Sometimes, I think, this gap, this chasm, seems far too wide to bridge. It’s far easier and takes far less energy to just disengage with a “Whatever bro, you do you.” I see it most often when people are triggered and/or rigid in a way that comes with very definitive “This is the WAY it is!” statements instead of, “This is my view and it differs from your view.” It happens when people feel their attached identity story is threatened. It happens with the tribe or team they identify with is threatened.
It seems to me fear increases the gap between these different realities and love, like in the movie Interstellar, may be able to transcend them and create a connection beyond the dimensions of time and space.
I’m hoping to love people and not feel any need to change the reality they are enjoying, even if it sounds bat-shit crazy to me. If someone likes my life, my reality, and wants to engage with me on how to get more of that in their life, their reality, sure, I’ll engage. I’m realizing engaging with any other intention other than changing yourself is quite pointless. So I seek to change myself and improve my reality. You can have your reality. I hope it works out well for you. I really do.