A romantic relationship starts off with intention to continue but, that doesn't always happen. Often, they end with some taking days and some years to draw to a close. Depending on circumstances, one or both can feel rejected and hurt, leaving bitterness and animosity.
There are a host of ways to deal with emotions yet few lead anywhere healthy unless it ends with letting the go and moving on. Many struggle with this because when one feels they have been treated badly, it is very hard to forget but, letting go isn't about forgetting, it is forgiving. Corny, but true.
I meet and hear about people, listen to them speak about ex-partners with so much anger or disappointment and wishing them all kinds of horrible as if it is them who is to blame for the bad feelings. No matter what the past held or how someone behaved, our feelings are ours, always.
People go lifetimes holding onto the hurts of the past with such intensity, that no matter what comes into their present, they do not see it or, actively destroy it in an attempt to not be hurt again. A self-protection and a protection of what would be better off releasing.
In this area many argue and say, "But you don't know what I went through" ... Do they really know either or, are their emotions clouding their judgements and their thoughts holding old wounds open, rather than helping them heal?
Feelings are personal, even though the catalyst may be shared. Dealing and healing is the responsibility of the individual.
Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
(posted from phone)