I was looking through some old photos after running some edits for a friend and came across this one. It reminded me of my wife and I a very long time ago, although not a long time in years. It just seems a long time considering the events in between then and now and I miss those times. I am not one to reminisce all that much or romanticise about times gone but I do feel pangs of longing occasionally for what we used to have, and I miss dancing.
This is why the picture reminded me of my wife as I think the two dandelion seeds look like they are dancing alone, away from the group and I think this sums us up pretty well; alone together. Our relationship has always been so and for the most part, our lives have been the same, her and I together facing the world. And now with our daughter, it is the three of us holding hands, blown by the winds.
I don't think my wife and I will ever return to the relationship of the past, too much has flowed between, it has changed and matured and the simplicity of two dancing in the corner alone, has been replaced by the complexities and struggles of a life of confusion and need. There have been too many paper cuts, too much blood loss both metaphorically and physically over the years for either of us to move like we once did.
It is the way of the world, the way of all relationships perhaps, things change and once change takes place, nothing can truly ever be the same again. The situations we have faced have changed us and taught us each different lessons.
I say that in relationships people either grow together or, grow apart and I think that my wife and I have done both of these things. What this means for our relationship it is too early to tell though. I always find it interesting when people make grand statements about the success of their relationships only to have them crumble not too far into the future.
I think this is especially true of the 'fake it til you make it' generation as they seem to think the faking part is in what is said, the appearance of what you are doing. No, the faking is in the fooling of the self to try regardless of the chance of failure, the actions however have to be real.
When it comes at working at relationships, it is not about holidays and romantic dinners, going to the movies or flowers, it is about conversation to get things sorted out and if that doesn't take place, there will always be conflict, tension and disappointment as each will be working against the other, instead of walking hand in hand. I don't know why I am writing this but, i do now I have a lot of work to do on our relationship and, I hope I will always have the work to do.
The work we do are the seeds we plant, our relationship the soil. What we grow depends on both.
Taraz
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