LONELINESS AND BEST PICS EVER
It doesn’t matter what you do for a living, how many friends you have or how “successful” you may appear to be. We all feel disconnected from time to time. And if we listen to (and believe) the voice in our head, we can quickly spiral down into darkness. https://www.marieforleo.com/2015/04/when-you-feel-useless-and-alone/
Toronto, Canadá
Middle age is that phase of life in which our possibilities and freedoms seem to contract most dramatically, where our sense of who we are and will be is liable to feel most constrained by pressures from all sides. The disappointments and anxieties of unfulfilling work, unhappy family life, and our own or others’ poor health are intensified by the conviction that there is no escape: this is simply the hand fate has dealt us. It’s not hard to imagine what a lonely feeling that can be. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jul/14/midlife-lonely-isolated-social-media
Toronto, Canadá
take an step back, and think
It is estimated that over 40% of us will feel the aching pangs of loneliness at some point in our lives. Yet despite how common loneliness is, few people are fully aware of the dramatic ways in which it impacts us. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201410/10-surprising-facts-about-loneliness
Maybe you feel you are looking for something that you don't know what is it?
And what hope of change at this point? Whatever the disappointments of work or family, the prospect of giving up either may seem a lot worse. You can change your body or clothes or car or musical taste, but out of the corner of your eye you’ll perceive the wry mockery of younger people – perhaps of your own teenage children. And worse, something in you feels like joining in.
Bilbao, España
Social media may seem like the ideal remedy. If everyday reality has come to feel cumbersome and grey, the online world gives you the chance to remake the self, project the person you’d like to be. Facebook and Twitter cultivate an atmosphere of perpetual mutual affirmation and warmth, providing a rolling assurance of your value and lovability. But no sooner is loneliness banished than it returns. This idealised version of yourself is, after all only a defensive carapace, so that the gap between your happily sociable online and lonely offline lives becomes a kind of reproach. Moreover, it doesn’t take long for subtle provocations and direct attacks to crack the veneer of online friendliness and entrench the very feelings of isolation you were trying to escape. Affirmation and rejection turn out to be two sides of the same coin.
Burgos, España
Loneliness distorts our perceptions of our relationships. Studies have found that merely asking people to recall times they felt lonely was sufficient to make them devalue their relationships. These perceptual distortions often cause lonely people to withdraw even further from the very people who could alleviate their loneliness. Making matters worse, their friends might be hesitant to connect as well, because...
Orangestad, Aruba
i wanna share with you this post about lonelyness, and how in many ways is nice
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/07/16/10-more-ideas-to-help-with-loneliness/
- Realize that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. The brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger, and that includes painful scary feelings; therefore loneliness gets our attention.
Reach out because loneliness is painful and can confuse you into thinking that you are a loser, an outcast. You might react by withdrawing into yourself, your thoughts, and your lonely feelings and this is not helpful. At its best, anticipation of loneliness might motivate us to reach out and cultivate friendships, which is the healthiest thing to do if you are sad and alone. When you are a child, and your sadness causes you to cry, you may evoke a comforting response from others. If you’re an adult, not so much.
Notice your self deflating thoughts. We often create self centered stories to explain our feelings when we are young, it is not unusual for children to assume that there is something wrong with them if they are not happy. If they are lonely and sad, children may assume other people don’t like them when this is rarely the case
Make a plan to fight the mental and emotional habits of loneliness. If you realize you are dealing with an emotional habit, you can make a plan to deal with loneliness. Since healthy interaction with friends is good, make some effort to reach out to others, to initiate conversation and face time even when your loneliness and depression are telling you not to. Yes, it is work, but it is worthwhile, just like exercising is worthwhile even when you are feeling tired or lazy.
Find others like you. Now days there are more tools than ever before to find out where the knitters, hikers or kiteboarders are congregating so that you can get together with those who share your interests. This makes it much easier to identify groups with which you will have something in common, a natural basis for beginning a friendship.
Be curious, but don’t expect perfection or applause. Each time you show up is an experiment, a micro adventure in social bonding. If you are curious about and interested in others, they will be attracted to you because you are giving them attention. So you will get attention in return. Curiosity about others also takes your focus away from those painful feelings that tend to make you hide and sulk.
Hope you like mi advise!! and dont give up!! loneliness has his beautiful side!!
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