You know the trick to winning in life? Me either but, I have a beautiful wife so I guess that counts for something. These were taken a few years ago while we were walking the dog, before we were married and, before we had a little person to look after. Now, my wife looks like a monster ;)
Looks actually aren't very important to me but, they are definitely a first attractor and, I was attracted. I remember when I saw her dancing at a local weekly salsa event and I had to watch her for awhile before I plucked up the courage to ask her to dance. She is a much, much better dancer than I am. We very rarely get to dance anymore, the last time must have been close to a year ago.
People are somehow ashamed these days to publicly recognize that looks matter when it comes to their partners as if there is some taboo about it but, I know that for me, I want my wife to at least think I am not terrible to look at. It is nice if she likes my sense of humor or the way I think but still, I don't want her to like me despite my looks. The concept of 'looks don't matter' falls down time and time again when put to the test so, why spend so much effort denying it? Everyone has preferences and, they can vary a massive amount.
People like to judge other people on their preferences in what they like as if they have a right to be a part of that decision yet, they don't want their own preferences chosen for them. They look at magazine covers and the runway models inside and complain about unrealistic or unfair standards but, what does it really matter?
If a person has a healthy self-esteem (which has nothing to do with the preferences of others), one can accept that there are all types of people who make up this world and a very wide spectrum of what people find desirable. Me having my preferences doesn't stop you from having yours and just because you may not be my physical type, doesn't mean I think any less of you as a human, nor would it mean a relationship couldn't form.
The thing is, there are millions of women in this world that are similar to the looks of my wife but, there is only one of her. Just as, there is only one of you. Looks don't count for much at the end of the day, when you plan on being with a person for a lifetime. It is the individual that matters so, be yourself and stop worrying what others may be.
My wife may not be the most beautiful woman in the world to you but, you can't know her as me.
Taraz
[ a Steem original ]