Over the last however many years, the term 'toxic person' has come into the vernacular and has become extremely over used. In my opinion, people seem to think someone is toxic whenever the person doesn't support them in their views, or makes them feel bad in any way, shape or form. In my opinion, the toxic person is the one who is unable to deal with anything negative without it affect their behavior.
I actually don't mind many of the people that others may consider toxic as often, the toxic person is often not at all and rather just unfiltered and even thought I don't think it is necessarily a good approach to life, I would rather deal with an unfiltered mind than one that hides true intention behind a veil of civility. There are many more of them and rather than being poisonous, they are corrosive to what they touch, and grind and undermine situations to either get their way or destroy what they cannot have.
I find that it is the corrosive that are the biggest threat to a prosperous future here, as whilst their helpful facade faces into the community, the backdoor is doing all it can to extract value and damage those who stand in their way. In my quite significant life experience, it is these who will tear down the castles, the decay from within, not the attacks from beyond the walls.
And too often, they are supported in their behaviors, often directly but also indirectly through blind eyes and inaction. It is common that the dirty work is left to a few and it is they who will take the brunt of the fallout force and it is they who will be accused of toxicity. It is strange how so often those who are doing all they can to improve a situation are the ones offered up for crucifixion. Only when they are gone do we realize the protective roll they played as without them, the stability and potential dissolves away.
How far can the degradation go before things stop working, the roof no longer holds out the rain, the floorboards no longer the weight of those that step upon them? This is the problem when so many turn blind eyes to the corrosive actions whilst saying they too want to have the benefits of the future. Excuse after excuse for taking the short-view but wanting the benefits of the long.
What do you call people who are so inconsistent in their behaviors, cause harm whilst simultaneously claiming to be victimised, throw their hands up at the actions of others while performing poorly themselves; critical, jealous, envious, entitled? Oh, that's right, Toxic.
Seems the toxic and the corrosive walk hand in hand, despising each other while they support themselves.
Taraz
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