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I've been writing phrases for different reasons, and now I only come up with a few paragraphs that I consider selfish. I didn't focus on it, nor did I pay attention to it, but I told myself that they are very good rap bars since they always talk about respect, honor, and loyalty. I started to reflect on that and asked myself this question:

Have you ever thought about changing yourself for others?

Not in that empathetic way of esteeming others and ourselves, no, I mean in a way that allows you to abandon self-esteem and selfishness and only esteem others.

We are so clear that we esteem and flatter the people around us out of empathy, of course, but we almost never do so without self-esteem and that selfish mind that you will see how to overcome here.

It is natural for human beings to divide the external world into things we like, things we dislike, and things we are indifferent to. We do the same with people; it is something we do habitually. We categorize friends, enemies, and strangers according to our interest or affinity with them. This, my dear friend, IS WRONG and is a major obstacle when we want to cultivate real and impartial love for another human being. We are too intensely attached to a way of perceiving the outside world that we do not learn to distinguish between those mental states where some are beneficial but others are harmful.

It is difficult to identify self-deception when we have mental disturbances such as hatred or jealousy, yet we know how they can harm our mental health. There are other mental disturbances, such as attachment, pride, and that blessed clinging to self-esteem, which are almost impossible for us to recognize and which we confuse with other mental states.

That mind of selfishness and self-esteem makes us think that we are valuable and important without taking others into consideration. The mind of self-esteem based on respect, honor, and loyalty allows us to value another living being without them being more important or valuable than us, nor less.

Do you wonder how this can be harmful?

With that selfish state of mind, we believe that our happiness, desires, and well-being are above others, so much so that we get upset if someone criticizes or insults us, but we don't care if they criticize or insult someone else. We are even capable of rejoicing if we dislike that person. Surely you laughed. We are so accustomed to this selfish attitude that we cannot imagine life without it. But if we apply a little wisdom, we will see that this attitude is wrong and harms the way we see the real world. This erroneous state of mind of selfishness does not allow us to reflect on it and see how absurd it is to value an inherent existence, such as that super-ego that arises after years of self-esteem and egocentrism, distancing us from the true potential of our mind.

The Bodhisattva Shantideva says;

All happiness in this world arises from the desire for others to be happy, and all suffering arises from desiring our own happiness so much.

I don't know about you, but I know that everything we live and experience now in the present is the result of past actions. It is clear that pleasant experiences come from virtuous actions and unpleasant experiences from harmful actions. I like to use those terms, but we know colloquially that ~bicheteo calls bicheteo - lacreo calls lacreo~, and many of those punishments they experience come from that selfish mind that desires its own happiness without caring about others. When we care about other living beings, even if we are going through a bad time, seeing them well makes us feel well.

So we can see this from two points of view:

That selfish mind is the cause of our problems.
These problems are the basis for committing bad actions and experiencing the consequences.

Actions motivated by mental disturbances are harmful, and these usually arise from that selfish self-esteem of believing ourselves to be more important and valuable than others. That is why we must learn to change ourselves for others and abandon the self-deception that brings us ignorance, hatred, and indifference, since it is not vitally important to satisfy all our desires.