We can only make choices, maximize them, and optimize them But we can't be sure of the outcome. I will apply E=mc² equation of Einstein here. When two objects are in the gravitational field, a part of their weight is transformed into energy. Just like that the society where we exist, there is an invisible force or attraction binds us together, the result as we desire may not be achieved, a part of it also account on our surrounding, so the universe tell us the way we are supposed to be.