Sometimes you don’t get closure. You don’t get to stand before the person who hurt you and ask them why they did it, ask them if they see the pain they’ve caused, ask them if they even care. You don’t get the opportunity to go back in time.
Sometimes you don’t get a second chance. You don’t always get the ability to start completely over after you’ve fallen down. You don’t always get to chase the person you left when you weren’t ready, take back the words you’ve said, or unlove the one you gave your heart to.
Sometimes there are no redo buttons, no rewinds. Sometimes you’re simply stuck with the cards you’ve been dealt, as painful as they may be.
But that doesn’t mean your future is hopeless.
You can’t completely erase all your mistakes. But you can begin again. You can’t make people change, make them love you, make them apologize. But you can learn to learn to let go. You can forgive yourself.
If you hear nothing else today—hear this: You are worth more than the brokenness of your past.
And you are deserving of healing – most importantly from yourself.
Read these words as a reminder: It’s okay to forgive yourself. It’s okay to let go. It’s okay to acknowledge that you’ve been imperfect, but that longer has to be your identity.
It’s okay to look back on the person you’ve been and slowly release your guilt. It’s okay to realize that you’ve changed, are continually changing, and might make different decisions now. It’s okay to come to terms with the fact that you loved people who weren’t right for you, that you did stupid things, that you lost your footing, your focus, or your faith a time or two.
It’s okay to say, ‘I am fine. I am moving on. I am letting go. I am beginning again.’ It’s okay to be imperfect. To be human. To forgive yourself for the moments you lost your way. To heal.