Control suggests that something is outside oneself; and so when you try to control, you are by default objectifying that which you try to control. So what does that mean when you try to control another.

Are viewing the other as being in-service to you?

Adjustment (of self) to meet a situation or to maintain harmony in an interpersonal relationship recognizes connection and oneness and that the individual is contributing to existence and specifically and not there to specifically contribute you or your happiness.

Your happiness remains your responsibility.

Stress comes from trying or feeling unable to control a situation or another person. We can be certain that being certain, being insistent, will lead to stress. We pursue insistence to absurd levels. I know I have been guilty of this to the point of trying to control the whole world. It feels and appears as though the world is trying desperately to control me. I find myself in a philosophical frying pan with no way to step without burning my toes.

There are forces in the world that are absolutely exerting control over very intimate decisions. What we take into our very bodies. A thing, as time reveals truth, is neither safe nor effective; particularly to the young and healthy. Unsafe to my own child. A realization supported both by my instinct ... an internal realization ... but also revealed from external learning; a life long pursuit of academic learning.

I am a learner, a problem solver, and truth teller. An inadvertent iconoclast.

I am these things naturally and am driven to know things, as naturally as I am driven to breathe and nurture myself. I strive to find the balance of internal and external awareness, 'to align internal energy with action, to align balance with problem solving.

The Tao guides to offer without insistence. Set your offering free and free yourself from your offerings. This promotes balance and dissolves stress. The snafu. I have been tripping over is fear; fear that it will not be enough; not enough soon enough.

I struggle at times to release the fear that comes with having a child and wanting to protect your child, not just in the present, but from dangers that may arise in the future. Meditation and rest; full focus on my child; have helped a lot. Faith has helped a lot. Having my allies multiplied has helped.

People are waking up to the nightmare we have been living through. Oddly the awakening of others has begun to dis-spell the nightmare we have all been living through; whether that was a fear of disease or fear of death by medical tyranny. We fear together or we heal together.

We are connected; reflecting each other. The mirror becomes a nightmare when you do not understand its true nature. It is reflecting you.

Just because this was wonderful to see.

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