When couples argue about porn, it typically stems from a place of fear, worry, and sometimes hidden self-doubt. Your partner may feel watching porn is a form of cheating or may lead them to infidelity within that relationship. They may express these fears in anger; demanding that you stop watching porn. Porn is not the culprit, rather the understanding of porn is the issue. We fear what we don’t understand. Taking the time to understand why one partner desires porn and why the other fears it, we can learn more about each other’s desires and needs. We can uncover insecurities and work to mend those parts of us that are weakened by misunderstanding. By taking the time to do so, you can strengthen your relationship in ways you never thought possible. How do I know this? Because I am a woman speaking from my personal experience and years of researching the industry of porn, personally and professionally.
Below are 3 Ways Porn Has Strengthened My Relationship
SAFELY SHARING OUR DEEPEST FANTASIES AND DESIRES
Watching porn together can allow open communication about your kinks and fantasies. When my partner and I are having what we lovingly call, “Our Sexcapade Weekends” we both know this is a very intimate, private space that we have created with each other and anything goes with no judgment. We can safely talk about fantasies that we may have and play them out with one another. Being transparent with my partner in my sexual desires have led to a higher level of trust and honesty which has strengthened our relationship. We can be ourselves and not hide our sexual desires from each other. Many couples are afraid to share these desires with one another, and therefore they spend so much time hiding this side of who they are from the person who should know them best. We have allowed one another to be completely vulnerable, with raw-honesty which has allowed for a deeper connection. The payout? Mind-blowing sex and a stronger relationship.
PORN TEACHES US TECHNIQUES
No matter how skilled you are in the act, there is always something new and exciting to try. Porn is a plethora of free sexual techniques by amateurs and professionals alike. Therefore, you can view porn as a “Sexual University.” Porn stars are your elected Professors, and whichever kink or fantasy you choose to watch is your classroom. There are no grades, aka judgments. That’s the most important part when you begin this sexual exploration together. Your partner’s willingness to try new things in bed is an automatic pass. Criticizing them isn’t allowed (unless they’re into that). However, you should let your partner know how they can increase your sexual pleasure by instructing them when they are trying something new. Statements such as softer, harder, more pressure, use the bigger dildo, etc. allows your partner to become an expert of your body and there own, resulting in: you got it---mind-blowing sex and a stronger relationship.
MORE TIME FOR EACH OTHER
Sex is more fun for us now, so we have more of it. It’s as simple as that! We have been together for over five years, and the sex is as frequent and new as it was in the very beginning of our relationship. Studies have shown that increasing the amount of sexual activity with your partner will help to reduce stress and improve your feelings of connection and well-being. Unfortunately, there is not a magic number attached to the amount of sex each couple should be having to achieve relationship bliss. However, I have found, the more we have sex while watching porn together, the more mind-blowing sex we have contributing to a healthier and happier relationship.
Next time your partner asks to watch porn with you, don’t X it out…..XXX it out…together.
~Lexi Scot
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