First of all I'd love to thank the Steemit community for the absolute shower of positive and inspiring comments on my last posts. I've literally watched you all come in your droves to stop by and say something nice to me, and that in itself is amazing, no?
You can literally thank yourself for brightening up someone's day for leaving something positive on their post. Who?
Me!
I love that, despite one or two people, you have all related to what I've shared in some form or other, and that you've given me either a snippet of your own lives or gave me a piece of your own wisdom for me to take away with me.
I fucking love that.
Why?
Because positivity is such a powerful emotion. It breeds happy feelings and thoughts, it promotes wellness and has everyone thinking about their fellow human rather than wanting them to strike them down. You probably haven't even thought about it yet, but through my positive posts and the anonymity of Steemit you may have been talking in a positive way, and relating to someone you wouldn't otherwise give the time of day.
Positivity breeds a collective consciousness. It breeds unison, togetherness and helping one another.
My path to positivity was a long one. It all started when I actually took into consideration what I said to people. My last job required that I actively listen to what people were telling me, and also listen to what I was saying to other people.
It shocked me through my learning process that I came out with a lot of negative shit.
Like a lot.
I had to ask myself how would the other person feel if I were to say such a negative thing to them? The thought process worked best when I asked myself "how I would feel if I said that to myself?"
Not very good, actually.
And usually negativity has an intended purpose, we say these things to make the person on the receiving end feel bad. Sometimes we don't even want that - we just want them to emphasise with us, because, you know, life is damn hard.
And it is, now doubt about that.
I also asked myself what the other person would do, armed with this now negative feeling I had gave them. Where would they take it? Or more importantly what would 'I' do? And I will say that's when it hit like a brick to the face.
I'd go talk to someone, try make it feel better. Or let it fester.
And there I sat in my moment of "eureka" that by talking and thinking in a negative manner I was breeding the emotion. I was effectively creating a negative space around me.
Generally I speak from experience when I say this - people don't gravitate towards negative spaces. Probably one of the reasons I was barely opened up to or talked to in the past.
So what happens when you start to shed all that negativity? It was tough at first but by saying nice things to people and passing the train of positivity to others the feeling of wellbeing began to settle.
Until now where I'm rarely negative - even when someone tries to goad me. I stop that negativity in it's fucking tracks. It won't get past me.
And it doesn't stop there in my thought process. You'll often find me buying my best friend a bottle of expensive vodka because he's just.. an awesome friend. How does that make him feel?
Fucking awesome.
And appreciated. And I feel awesome doing it.
Do I want something back? Nothing at all. My friends have been there through thick and thin, and if I can't express my thanks in words - then bottle of vodka it is. He's a drinker. That's what he likes.
Think of life as a big fluffball of positivity.
"If life throws you lemons, make lemonade."
I love that quote :)