During meetings, I often get criticism from my employees. Usually about how I run a company. Frankly I am annoyed. Just imagine, I have a dozen years in this business, which is the founder and owner of the company, the time in ajarin how to manage the same company "child yesterday afternoon" a new work 3 years. Who eats from the salary I pay again. Is not upset. Know what they are about this effort that I built with this difficulty. So when I hear criticism from my employees, although my face is still smiling and nodding, in my heart sometimes furious too. Just beware, I fired. Sometimes I think.
Another criticism I sometimes receive from customers. This is even more annoying. Customers give a sharper criticism and unmistakable criticism. If the employee is still afraid, well if the customer does not have any fear at all. Wong they pay me. So even though his word choice was painful, I was forced to keep smiling and say "yes sir, yes sir, yes sir" on. Exactly broken CD. What else if the criticize his count is still junior. Well, my pride directly hit. Less asem, in the same lecture keroco ya. I do not know what I am owner. So sometimes I think.
Maybe I can not stand the criticism. In the personality tests I've been with, I'm a dominant type. One of the characteristics of this yes, I am very sensi with the criticism.
Not justification, but upset because in criticism I think humane. His name is human, he wants his actions in praise of others. Certainly upset or even angry if his actions in the blame the other party. Especially if the critics by people who think we are no more intelligent than us. Who are you, my critic? Maybe that's how most people feel.
Although annoyed, but I never get angry if in criticism. In fact I usually keep quiet. Nothing, I realize why criticism is useful for me. In fact, to be honest, I started my business first because of criticism. The story is like this. Since I was an employee I have been happy to discuss various business opportunities. Because I work in an IT company, usually business ideas that I catapult is still around the IT business. These business ideas I usually convey and discuss with my close friends. One day I was busy conveying a business idea in a cafe with a friend. The friend suddenly picked up his pocket book, opened it and shook his head with a smile. Why? Ask me. Half sneering he said that I have more than 30 business ideas (he records all), and none of them I have run. Plaque! I feel like slapped.
I was a thinker at the time. Not the perpetrator. And business ideas that I "egg" it turned out quite a lot. I was shocked. And ironically, not one I run. I am native omdo (omong doang) and nato (no action think only). This criticism made me ashamed of my friends, and finally tried to realize one of my business ideas earlier. And so I am an entrepreneur.
So criticism though annoying, but for me need. Even the praise actually makes us fall asleep, and forget to improve. While criticism will inspire us and make us better. Yes, but it must be "constructive criticism". Not really. Criticism yes criticism, want to convey as sharp as a razor blade or a good soft in the ear, it is up to the critics. "Build" it is up to us. Which one do you choose? Spicy criticism that makes your life totally changed for the better, or half-hearted criticism, which leaves you unchanged from the present situation? Yes, but please criticism is conveyed with the solution. This is also not mandatory. Criticism is a criticism, it is up to his critics. The solution is up to us. Moreover, people who like to criticize is usually not talent think of solutions. Just ask those who like the demo. Certainly can not provide concrete solutions. Leave it alone. Let's learn to think of his own solution. So its the more clever we are.
The offender is like a soccer player, and the critic is like a spectator. Two or two of them are necessary. The ball game without the audience is not exciting. Audiences without a football player, want to watch what?
Because sensi same criticism. I became lazy to criticize. First, because I am not a talent of criticism. I say people criticize even become rich people angry, but I mean not so, would like to make misunderstandings. Rather than misunderstanding, I'd rather say something good, or be quiet.
Secondly, I am trying to learn to apply the principle of "non-judgment". This principle I learned from Deepak Chopra in "7 Spiritual Laws of Success". Its core, learning not to "judge" events, events, or people. Because of our limitations as human beings, we really do not know the "big picture" of the events we judge. Who are we to judge events that have been outlined by the All-Knowing. Moreover, judging the perfection of the creation of the Most Perfect. I do not dare.
So what if I again upset people, or there are events that I do not think right? Instead of conveying criticism I prefer to eat chips. Ok .. Ok .. Ok .. Its impression "maksa" ya? But this is real. I love eating potato chips (which are plain flavors), or cassava chips (which are plain too). Her sense of crispness and the preoccupation of chewing it can forget me to criticize.
This writing sucks you? You want to criticize? Please ... please, convey your criticism, I want to grab cassava chips first