𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒀𝒆𝒔 𝑪𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒀𝒐𝒖?

Are you the people pleaser? Always saying yes to every one's need even at the expenses of your happiness?

Something happened recently which led me to this Post's inspiration.

Some people are so selfish that they shamelessly drain you off your time, energy and resources. The moment you need them too, they are nowhere to be found and most of them have good reasons to justify their action.

Imagine always going out of your way to make someone comfortable. You shrink your self to accommodate them and their excesses because you love them so much and are ready to put them ahead of your happiness, only for them to show you through their actions that, you mean nothing to them. How heart breaking it is to know, you meant nothing to people you could go to the end of the world for.

It's high time you chose yourself first. People are so unappreciative that even if you cut your head on a platter of gold, they'll complain that the tray isn't big enough.

Humans are insatiable. This post is a reminder that, it's okay to say No at times. When it feels burdensome, when you feel overwhelmed and unprepared for the next task. Don't add more responsibility to yours because you want to make the other person happy. It is not wrong to be selfless but never should it be against your will or happiness.

I always say that, you can only give out of what you have. Peace, love, tolerance, generosity and so much more. If you've drained yourself, there's nothing left to give out.

Remember to be gracious first to yourself. Don't ever sell your peace of mind to the next person. They really might not know the value of what you've sacrificed. They might take you for granted and it will break you.

It's okay to set healthy boundaries. It's also very okay to prioritize self-care. You alone understand where it hurts in your shoe. No matter how much you explain, it's the one who wears the shoe that feels the pain.

People pleasers are not happy people. They put their life on hold because they seek the validation of others. Ironically, these one don't even care about your point of view in their lives. So why try so hard to be in the good book of others at the detriment of your feelings, mental health and peace of mind?

Be kind to people, but be kinder to yourself. Give your time to people but never neglect you deserve even better. Feed your body, your mind and your soul.

While you Carter to the needs of others, first Carter to your needs. You matter as much as anyone else, including the next person. It is okay to say No when it doesn't feel right, in the end.. Everyone will be alright.