How are you?
The regular answer we usually get is "I'm fine," and the question is are we truly fine?
Why have we all conditioned ourselves to give this response even though we aren't truly fine?
Something happened in the early hours of today and I realized that most people are sad, unfulfilled and battling with one thing or the other and you never can tell unless you have a deep conversation with them.
But why are we too scared to be vulnerable? Well, I get it, not everyone means well to us and that's understandable, some people just want to be sure you aren't doing better than they are, while some just want to have some level of control over your life and others just ask how we are for formality sake but the question is do you truly care?
How can you prove you have a genuine interest in the other person?
Be genuinely kind to others and show by action that the other person matters to you.
A friend of mine has been posting so many happy moments on her WhatsApp and I was genuinely happy for her, so today she posted a meme and I commented and then we began to laugh until the conversation switched, so how are you?
"Fine, you?" She responded just immediately but then I knew how she would respond if she was truly fine and somehow I began to ask her once again, are you sure you're good?
Well, I went ahead to tell how her day went and exactly how things have been for me and then before I knew it she began to open up to me about how much she's been battling with many things and how she posted most of those happy moments on her status to disguise and make people feel that all is well.
We talked at length and honestly, she's going through a lot and then I began to think are we truly happy or do we just put up a show?
This music came to mind after our conversation, and thirty minutes later, I had to send her this music just to let her know I was still thinking of her and genuinely wanted her to be happy.
"Can I be your safe space?" I asked her again, and with a smiley emoji she responded "Yes" and that made my night.
At least for tonight, I know a huge burden must have been let out of her chest cause I've once been there before bottling my worries and fears and it wasn't a good one.
I hope we all learn to share kindness the little way we can and show genuine interest in others especially now that it looks as though many people have the "me-first" attitude.
It's not out of place to call a friend randomly and truly ask how they feel and maybe lend a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on.
If we are truly friends, we win together and when we hurt, we can hurt together for that's how we can truly heal when we've got each other's back.
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