Pointing fingers and assigning blame have almost become full contact sports in this day and age.

This line is pure gold good sir!

In pyschology there's the concept of Locus of control which is essentially what you can control, then there's what you can influence, and then things you cannot control.
For exemple I can control that I'm typing to respond to this, I can influence my likelihood of being in a car accident by driving safely but someone else could still break rules and hit me despite my doing everything right, and I have absolutely no control over the weather, nor can I stop an earthquake.

Many folks end up with problems because they have a distorted concept of what they can control or can't in either direction.(Either taking responsibility and having guilt over things they don't control, or never taking accountability).

I try to be logical about it, and even if I can't fix the core thing I wish I could change, I can try to have a healthy and growth mindset around the things I can change.