Joy, I am not so sure of all the specifics but it just feels so good to be joyful. Your serotonin levels rise and that dopamine rush and sweet feeling that you just want to keep feeling forever. Almost everyone wants to be joyful all the time, and we do whatever is in our power to stay happy for as long as we can. Constantly hoping to achieve our goals, find love, create a family, and hang out with friends and family. All of these things make us happy and we hope to do them as often as possible, so we can stay happy.
When we aren't happy we tend to find one or two things we enjoy doing and we do them hoping that they'll make us happy. Sometimes they work and we are happy, sometimes they don't and we remain sad. But in the end, we know it'll pass.
There are a lot of things that can make us unhappy, but something I noticed that has been notoriously robbing me of my happiness recently is overthinking. I can sit down and be happy for one minute, and then the next minute my mind wanders off and I start to see things that probably aren't there, or weren't meant that way, and It just changes my mood. I'm not even sure when this started, but I just noticed it recently and I realized how annoying it is. Overthinking eats a lot of joy, especially when you realize you were completely wrong about what you were thinking and you start to feel stupid for even thinking that way. The worst is when you react a certain way because of that fleeting thought, and then you realize you were acting defensively or felt offended for nothing.
Well, I am lucky I realized it early enough and now I have been working towards stopping myself from overthinking. I must admit though that it's not always easy trying to fight it. The thoughts come here and there and then I just have to ignore them. And then if they get persistent I just remind myself that they're nothing but thoughts and I find something to distract myself with till the thoughts eventually fade away.
I must admit though that once in a while some of those thoughts do end up being true, so I don't rule out logical thinking. In the end, I'll just do what is best for me. We all know that it is impossible to be happy forever, it is all about being happy a lot more times than you're sad. So do what is best for you.
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