When I got into the university in 2017/2018, I kind of felt independent, you know, being away from home under the roof of my parents and all. However, the truth still remained that it wasn't the true definition of independence. Obviously, my parents were still very much involved in so many things concerning me. I had to depend on them to get food, money, payment of fees and other things. Even when I started business during my first year at the university in pursuit of independence, I still let my parents be in charge of some things because I didn't want to drain myself. I started my business then with a loan and I couldn't afford to mix my business money with my personal money so I couldn't really depend on my profits to take care of myself. Also, I started my business with a loan back then so I couldn't afford to mix my profits with my personal money. Moreover, it was more than okay to still depend on my parents then; I was still a small girl, a baby girl in fact.
I didn't really get to live on my own until I got to 400 level and then some parts of my final year. In my first year, I stayed in the school hostel and in 200 level, I lived off-campus and I had one roomate. In 300 level, I had another roomate and we stayed together all through that year and some parts of my fourth year in the university. Although, I had been doing some things on my own without involving my parents before then. My business was doing better then and I was already getting making some decisions about a lot of things. I didn't fully depend on my parents as well, I even paid my school fees on my own once.
Getting to finally live alone actually felt very different but in a very good way. I felt like an actual adult or like a working class infact, lol. I was doing things on my terms and I did most things without involving anyone else. My business was doing a lot better at this time too and I had some side hustles, so I didn't really bother my parents before paying most of my bills. I felt fully in charge of everything in my environment, including my personal space, and it was quite a defining moment for me.
I made decisons that I trusted and was ready to face the consequences that came with it, because I knew it was my personal decison and not one influenced by another person's opinion. I had less distractions, I was more organized and I was growing gradually. I think I really love the idea of staying alone, you just automatically and unavoidably have to take care of and handle many things on your own. This was a time I felt really independent and in full control of what goes on around me.
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