There is a secret that they are doing their best to try to hide from people. They cover it up with participation trophies, talks about equity, and more...
It is simply this...
LIFE IS NOT FAIR!
Once you realize that you might realize that some people are going to get lucky by birth, by right place at the right time, by genetics, or other things. In a line or queue someone is always first. What are you going to do about it? Are you going to whine it is not fair and they should not be able to do that? Are you going to demand someone give you the same thing?
or
Are you going to better yourself and attempt to better your own situation?
The choice is ultimately yours...
I think today far too many people are making the wrong choice in this case.