My first relationship was online, a long distance relationship. We were both young and we believed love was enough to make it work regardless of the distance. Unfortunately, after three years, she grew cold and the relationship ended. In the year 2017, I entered into another relationship, then in school. She knew she was never going to end up with me, for some reasons she accepted my proposal and after graduation she ceased communication. During my youth service, Decided to give love a chance. The girl I dated was in a relationship but concealed it. Just a week before my passing out parade, she ceased communication and we never met until I returned home.
All through these relationships a piece of my heart was broken and it's often at this point that people believed a backup would have saved them that pain, true in some ways, but every action has its consequences. I don't encourage double dating even though it looks wise in the eyes of certain individuals. They have their reasons, but a cheat is a cheat no matter how well you paint it. I've heard people give reasons that look shiny on the surface, but deep below are dark aftermaths of its actions.
Cheating people often drop a red sign if studied carefully, because it's not the design of man to have two masters at the same time. One often gets more attention than the other. There's always one who's despised and one who's loved, so why go through the stress of forcing pretense and hiding secrets that would have been prevented. Double dating would mean dividing the little attention one has, lying to keep the both of them from knowing each other, spending extra money to maintain the relationship, and comparing the both of them, and finally breaking the other person's heart or even choosing wrongly.
It's easier to stay with one girl than having two or more. One means less stress, little lies, and less expenses , and vice versa. One reason why I don't encourage double dating is that one ends up not understanding any of the partners sufficiently because it's full of comparison and finding faults at every level. Having a single partner gives you an opportunity to know him or her better, find shared interests and their strengths, and give you room to build together gradually. It may not all be rosy, you may not even end up together, but it gives one the privilege to enjoy true affection and the serene assurance that they were truthful. Sometimes having a single partner is learning to avoid the temptation of unfaithfulness in the future. Because with too many partners, there'll be this longing you may want to seek that you once experienced from another partner in your partner that's not present.