Tradition is the people's way of life, how they think, behave and relate with one another.
Before marriage i have come across families who does not eat together as husband and wife, one happened to be my Aunt and her husband, eating together was not their routine, they can be in house the same time, but eat separately but that doesn't stop their love for each other, but now that am married, looking back at them, now i have my observations which am going to tell you
But ever since i got married, i eat with the same plate, and on the same table with my husband. The thoughtfulness of this question just made me remember a very funny incident that took place some weeks after our wedding, in the year 2014,
Few weeks into our marriage everything was just going smoothly, in the morning we will eat and leave for work, evening we are back again eat dinner together, because my husband doesn't keep late, but a day came he stayed about one hour late from his normal time and i was like oh! Let me eat, after all my Aunt does not wait for her husband, it was not long i finished eating, he came in and said to me, honey bring food let's eat, and I served him and went inside, he called me and asked me, are you ok, why are you not eating? I replied him, i have eaten and he uttered no word. Then the next day i repeated the same thing, as i dropped the food for him and i was about going out, he asked me where are you going, come let's eat, hehehe! This time around my tuning back with him pushing down the tray of food collides and i crap the food from falling on the floor.
Hee! Honey what's the problem as i rushed and craped the food, but i have eaten now, with his angry voice, eat what? yesterday you gave me excuses and today again the same thing, even if you are not eating, you are supposed to be here with me, talking with me and here you are, just drop food for me and Walk away, leaving me here all alone, hehehe! This was not funny at all. I began pleading with him oh! Honey am very sorry for that, i promised him it won't happen next time. Then he said to me, i watch my parents as i was growing up, they ate together all the time, even if something delayed my Dad and he came back late, my mum most be by him until he finish eating, he called me honey and i answered
him, he said i want us to continue in that tradition and i agreed with him. This is our ten years in that ritual and it has created a very big bond between us, and today i don't enjoy eating alone again, morning, and night, even any after noon his around, mostly on Sundays or any day, we don't miss eating together.
And this eating hours has become a gist and gossip time for two of us, especially the dinner time, we talk about all our daily encounters for that day, both funny ones and we will laugh loud and forget our table manners, and sometimes we are chocked with Pepper, mostly him and i will serve him water to calm the couch. Sometimes we carry the gist over to morning, the ones we didn't remember last night 🤣🤣
Sometimes we settle our dispute on the dining table; infact is a wonderful experience, but there are times something will delay him and he will call and say honey look at where i am, please eat i know you can't wait for me, then i will eat, and when he's back i will stay with him on the dining table as we practice our tradition.
So as i was saying concerning my Aunt and her husband, they love each other, but when there were issues between them, it lasts for long time before they settled, that was my observations, but remember i told you, that most times, i and my husband, we settle on the dining table and is still on, but them they can stay a week keeping malice, but that has never happened to me since this ten Years, and i pray God it doesn't happen, we had issues but it doesn't past a day without resolving it on the dining table or that other places you also know, but some times as a woman, i will try to carry the malice over, but not with my husband, we most settle it on the dining, even when i tried to prove stubborn, either he look for laughable story and tell or we dialogue it out on the dining table, and this tradition has been working for us.
Thank you for reading me, i appreciate 🙏🙏
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