Introduction
Undoubtedly, appreciated, parents, adults and youth of the block chain, we must understand that the social world of our children, which began to immerse themselves in the family, now moves progressively outward through relationships with friends, at school and in the neighborhood. In our adolescent children, in the great majority of cases, it displaces its sphere of vital interests towards the immediate social environment, and develops mainly in an area of action and mutual influence external to the family.
As stated by the North American writer Ellen G. White (1827 - 1915), when he said:
"As a stream acquires the properties of the land where it is managed, the principles and habits of young people are invariably tainted by the character of the companies they deal with."
By virtue of the great importance that the theme has for us, the parents of the block chain, which is related to our children and their extrafamilial environment, we will share experiences that allow us to have a better development and relationships with our children, depending on Your social World, both with your friends, at school and in the neighborhood.
A real example:
Roberto is now 16 years old. Until recently, his life was centered on the family. He and his little brother accompanied their parents to visit relatives or take a walk. They attended shows or sporting events together. Other times, everyone stayed at home watching television or doing housework.
However, now Roberto sees very little at home. On work days, right after finishing classes, he goes home to leave his books and his things, and shoots out through the door. On Saturdays and Sundays, he does not want to know anything about family activities. He is absent as soon as he has the opportunity.
Your new world is made up of friends. It is not something new, since he has always been a sociable child and has had many childhood friends. The difference is that now he has a passion for them. And if his parents harassed him by telling him to study instead of going out so much, Roberto would react aggressively and an altercation would form. Parents have understood that it is an expected change in emotional and social growth, and take it easy. And it's a good attitude, because bullying does not work with most teenagers.
A brief comment
Not all parents have the same reaction as Roberto's parents.
Unfortunately, other parents of young people or girls of this age consider it a personal affront. They think that their son is a rebel and that he no longer appreciates his parents. They look at their descendants with pity and feel unsuccessful.
It is to be expected, while the world of the child focuses on the family, the adolescent tends to settle down in the world of friends, school and neighborhood. That is, in their extrafamilial environment.
What should we understand parents?
If we consider, the recommendations of the specialists, they will tell us, that this tendency is due to the psychological changes that our children experience in this adolescent age, since they look for the independence of the family. However, it is too early for complete autonomy. For this reason, they rehearse this coveted privilege by spending little time at home and much outside of it. This does not mean that the family is not important for the adolescent. Deep down, he knows that the lasting relationship and unconditional support come from the family. In fact, the emphasis on the relationship with the group of friends lasts only a few years. Later, he will return to the family, especially after having formed his family.
The social world of the child begins immersed in that of his family, then moves progressively outward through relationships with friends, at school and in the neighborhood. This happens, as a teenager. Parents should understand that this only lasts a few years, then the young man will return to the family, especially after having formed his own.
