Introduction
Dear reader, of the chain of blocks: To walk with sure step by the fruitful way of understanding and tolerance; and thus be able to create and maintain an atmosphere of friendship and collaboration between young people and adults. It is required, that we, the parents and teachers; We are firm in our orientation and counseling with adolescents, in a subject as relevant as "Sexuality".
Do not forget that, like all human potentialities, sexuality must be controlled and directed, if we want it to be really pleasant and positive, with the moral lifestyle of the family, then it is necessary not to be manipulated by certain external influences. To impregnate everything with an exacerbated eroticism.
Sharing a life story.
Rosana, a 16-year-old girl, came to class on Monday with the urgent desire to tell her two best friends:
--I did it yesterday....
Due to the expression on his face and his malicious smile, the friends already knew that he was referring to the sexual act. And so, between laughter and expressions of mystery, he proceeded to talk about the event in detail and to answer the many questions of his friends.
It seemed that Rosana had advanced a great step in the ascent towards maturity. However, that same day he left it written in his diary:
"I could not resist the pressure anymore, I need to be one more ... I have made love with Alberto and it has been disappointing, I have not felt anything, I am against, but I can not be the" stranger "or the" narrow "of the group , everybody does ... "
What can we say to this, dear friend? being that, one of the most direct and significant consequences of sexual liberation is the initiation earlier and earlier in the sexual act, especially among girls. According to studies conducted in the 1960s, 19-year-old singles who had consummated the sexual act were 28% of girls and 65% of boys. In a report of the last decade of the century, 85% of young women and 80% of men of that age are mentioned.
Why is sexual initiation moving forward?
It is clear that the environment of widespread and almost constant eroticism, through the music and the lyrics of the songs, the dances, the youthful fashions and the internet, continually invites the sex that goes beyond kissing and caressing. On the other hand, the group pressure is very strong. There are many clans in which one is not completely accepted without having the experience of a complete sexual relationship.
Factors associated with teenagers who have sex early:
- Usually a son or daughter of a single mother, divorced parents or a broken family.
- Low academic performance.
- Low socioeconomic level.
- Has sexually active siblings and friends.
- His parents have a low cultural level.
- They reject religion.
- With a tendency to use tobacco, alcohol and other drugs.
- With scarce communication resources.
Sexuality as a prominent aspect in adolescence.
Both parents and teachers and adults, of the chain of blocks, we must understand that sexuality is a prominent aspect in adolescence, as throughout it experienced a marked increase in sexual desire. This responds not only to reasons of a biological nature, but also to causes of a psychological and social nature.
In effect, adolescents are experiencing remarkable physiological changes that prepare them for a more complete sexuality. However, their inclination to sexual activity is also due to a natural curiosity, to a vehement desire to seek affection and acceptance, while at the same time it seems to them a demonstration of the maturity they believe they have achieved in front of the group and even in front of them. itself.
Apart from these factors, we find ourselves in a general social context that includes, among other elements, cultural traditions, fashion, the influence of the media (literature, cinema, radio, television, advertising, internet), the family and the religion.
All these elements, dear reader, of the chain of blocks, can favor or repress to a greater or lesser extent the sexual impulse of youth.
Important changes in the last decades on the predominant concept of sexuality.
During the last decades there have been a series of transformations that have led to important changes in the prevailing concepts about sexuality. These changes are obvious in the case of adolescents, whose learning of sexological concepts is very different from that of their parents and grandparents.
The media have opened very quickly when it comes to addressing everything related to sexuality and eroticism, so that a large volume of information, which rarely takes into account the quality and authenticity of its contents, is now available very easily for children and young people. people. Literature, the press, radio and television, as well as new information "highways", and especially advertising, continually use sex as a claim to attract and maintain consumer attention.
All this large volume of information, used by the media, has devalued, or even banalized, a really delicate facet of human existence: sexuality. Much of what was taboo about sex has disappeared; so it is no longer a shameful and shameful matter, or at least one that should be treated with prudence and moderation. Nowadays it has become the star theme of many situations and areas.
For all this, now more than ever, a sexual orientation is imposed:
This helps the adolescent to understand deeply the sexuality and to connect it with his own system of values to decide in advance his reach, instead of letting it go by the simple instinct. In other words, sex demands responsibility.
Now, if many adults seem unable to use their own sexuality in a reasonable way, we must conclude that the adolescent, who has more limitations, is completely logical that he needs guidance and help to deal with sexuality.
Evidently that orientation, and with more reason the help, usually can not come from the radio or the television, nor from the popular literature or the cinematography. This is because the media are more concerned with satisfying the wishes and desires of consumers, instead of educating their tastes and inclinations in a healthy and positive lifestyle, both physical, mental and social, and from the spiritual .
If many adults seem unable to use their own sexuality in a reasonable way, we must conclude that the adolescent, who has more limitations, is completely logical that he needs guidance and help to deal with sexuality.
