Introduction

My experience as an educator has led me to the different stages of interpersonal relationships. Human relationships are a challenge, but it is about the level of education. In my role as educator, I have influenced the formation of children and adolescents. However, I must consider that the most demanding work has been with young people, specifically with young people between 13 and 19 years, which constitute the so-called Stage of Adolescence. Without a doubt, it is a stage of transition, where all doubts, hesitations and human uncertainties are manifested. Some psychologists consider that it is the era of idealism and hope, when all the paths of life open up brilliantly before the energy of young people ready to engage in great and noble projects.

Adolescents, understanding and tolerance.

What adult among us has not had to go through adolescent age?

It seems curious and paradoxical, but it is a reality, to parents, and to the elderly in general, it is often difficult for them to UNDERSTAND the teenagers and even the twentysomethings.

Because of the lack of understanding of parents or adults towards adolescents, this has led them to go on many occasions to specialists who have knowledge and skills in the treatment and training of young people. It is necessary, always go to specialists, who can give practical guidance to parents to have successful relationships with young people.

In my experience as an educator, I have discovered that there is no other formula of understanding between adolescents and their parents and teachers than UNDERSTANDING and TOLERANCE, as a result of genuine love.

Any useful and effective advice, received by parents or adults towards relationships with adolescents, will always lead to foster a climate of mutual understanding and tolerance among youth and adults.

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Adolescence, an extraordinary stage.

We will share briefly the situation of a young woman of 14 years, in which the relevant changes of her stage as a teenager are reflected.

Daliani is 14 years old and has changed a lot in recent months. It is less communicative than before. This is confusing to his mother, according to his own words:

"I always got along very well with my daughter, but now I have the impression that a great distance is being created between us, before she told me everything she did in class and what she was talking with her friends, now days and days go by. almost without a word between the two of us, and with her father, if she talks, it is to discuss, they do not agree on anything and they end up shouting.However, I find her much more mature in everything. In the disputes with her father she is absolutely right, I also realize that when she does something she likes, she is tireless The other night she stayed until very late doing a school work on Geography, which is an issue that interests her The next morning, despite having slept very little, she looked very happy and very affectionate, I asked her to call her aunt Carmen over the phone because they had operated on her. But he answered smiling: Clar or yes, mom, that's what the family is for, right? I realize that Daliani has changed, and not necessarily for the worse; but many times I do not know how to treat it. "

It is important to emphasize that boys and girls become different when they reach adolescence. All these changes leave them quite perplexed, and even their own parents, as well as the adults who have to treat them; Even though the elders know that all these changes are something natural that was to be expected. The adolescent is passing from child to adult. And the responsibilities as well as the privileges are very different in one stage and in another.

In addition, it is in adolescence that the greatest physiological changes of our whole life are experienced, which are accompanied by significant variations in the psychological sphere (affectivity, emotionality) and in relationships.

Adolescence is also accompanied by a significant intellectual expansion. The adolescent is feeling more and more able to think about himself, to reason, to identify inconsistencies, and to argue.

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Positive aspects in the adolescence stage

• The adolescent is idealistic, intuits concepts and realities that are beyond the reach of adults, which over the years has become perhaps too realistic.
• The adolescent has a physical and psychological energy that can produce the unthinkable.
• It is endowed with a strong creativity that, in most cases, tends to fade, or at least temper remarkably, to enter the adult stage.
• It has a marked sense of justice, which is why it is able to recognize the absence of ethics without being blinded by personal interests or social conventions.
• Is able to love intensely, or to reject with equal force something or someone.

In short, the adolescent is full of resources, which he can use profitably; that is, if they find understanding in the elderly, and they offer support and help to channel their talents and virtues towards a positive and healthy lifestyle.

Dear reader, in the middle of all the topics studied so far, we must then ask ourselves:

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What is adolescence?

We could say that adolescence is, in short, the period of transition between childhood and adulthood. The concept of adolescence comes from old.

Already Aristotle highlighted certain negative characteristics in the adolescent:

He is full of passion and sexual desire, he is irascible and prone to be carried away by his impulses. However, he adds that the adolescent is charitable, confident, sure of his affirmations and with high aspirations.

After Aristotle, many other authors have made observations about this stage of human life.

In 1904 Stanley Hall in his scientific study of adolescence, reiterates the idea that adolescence is like a bridge between the "wild" years of childhood and the civilized phase of adulthood. It is expected, then, that adolescence is a period of turbulence, passion, suffering and rebellion against the adult world.

Meanwhile, the founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, explains adolescence as the restoration of sexual impulses lost in childhood. Their conclusion is that these changes bring internal disorders in the adolescent's life: anxiety, isolation, confusion and guilt.

Margaret Mead was the first to call attention to the problem of associating adolescence and crisis. Her ethnographic studies in Samoa and New Guinea led her to conclude that adolescence, as a turbulent stage, is exclusive to certain societies and that such a concept does not exist in other cultures, such as those of certain islands in the Pacific.

Erikson understood adolescence as the moment in which the young man tries to solve the issues:

Who I am?
What will I do?
Do I accept or not the ideas of the previous generation?

It is about the period of searching for personal identity. Some solve the problem easily, others take years; But everyone has to ask these questions.

Jean Piaget emphasized the intellectual aspect of adolescence as the culminating stage of intellectual development, which endows each individual with the necessary mental skills to enter into the complexities of knowledge. After adolescence, the subject already thinks as an adult.

At present, the tremendous magnitude of endocrinological activity in adolescence is admitted, which motivates changes of various kinds. As for the effect that all these changes exert on each subject, there are very large individual differences; and what for some is a period of turbulence, for others it can be a normal stage and lacking serious difficulties.

In addition to the possible problems, the great potential of the adolescent is also recognized today, who has attributes that enable him to ensure significant achievements.