Do You Really Love Your Self?
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Self love is something most of us are lacking, circumstances and tough times had hit a lot us so bad that it has made us developed hatred towards ourselves but deceive ourselves that we love others. If we would take a close examination for the reason why most of us don't love Ourselves the way it ought to be , we might be tempted to conclude that our reasons are justifiable. Take for instance someone who lost his/her parents at a very tender age and had no one to come for their rescue when they needed it. For such a one if care is not taken, his/her can be so hardened that he might not even know what love is.
I grew up to discover that one of the enemies I have is myself. I find it more easy to love and treat others very well but for myself, I never took my time to really care that much for it. I could do anything to make another person happy and make them find a reason to smiles but when it comes to me, I give myself strips meanwhile this is the same self or body that I use to get whatever I need in life, without it I can do nothing, why treat it that way? Isn't it a sign of ungratefulness and wickedness?
Whenever I go a little wrong I beat myself so hard as though I am an enemy but others I try to give hope and motivation , sometimes I wonder why I am like this, treating myself roughly but giving others hope. Is it how it is really supposed to be? A little error I give myself sleepless nights and go through tough thoughts and have my head choked with irrelevant stuffs that can rise my blood pressure.
There were many days I would be starving but I would not touch a naira from my account to feed my hungry stomach but if a friend or family member comes in with a cry I won't think twice before I empty my account to help them solve their problems. I love seeing the smiles on their faces but on mine which demand nothing big because It will only take a walk down inside to get it but it that is the hardest task for me.
But why are we this harsh and mean to ourselves? Dont you think we are actually faking it when we say we love others when we don't love ourselves? It is possible to help someone remove thorns from their skins when we are carry some too? Can we lead someone who is blind, when we ourselves are blind? Love is something that must start from us, like the saying goes charity begins at home. Whatever you can not do to yourself, doing it to another person is hypocrisy. Like how can you even do it when you don't know what it even means because you yourself don't know it, neither have it, Like it is said, you can't give what you don't have.
On a normal day, it is expected that man should love himself above everything else on earth, that is what always results in greed atleast but this days it's turning to the opposite, self hate has made a lot of people dispised not only their lives but that of others inclusive. That is why murder and suicide is on the increase . Hate has made men not know the meaning and importance of life so they can do anything to harm it because their conscience are dead.
Well recently I have decided that I would start loving myself no matter what it takes the reason is because myself hate has not only affected my relationship with people but it has also made me hate them as well. In fact I don't see life as something meaningful and worth living.
The last time I did something good to myself that made me feel loved was not too long ago but what I did was not something too big like you might be imagining right now. I didn't take myself out on a date and ate chicken laps with five alive drink hehe. It is something strange and funny but it made me felt as though it is right now that I am starting to live.
Well to cut the story short what I did was to allow myself do what I wanted to do, I began treating myself with respect and serious confidence. I decided not to ever allow me see myself so low like I used to before which made me felt like I was a nothing and a nobody. In fact even if I do something wrong, I still praise myself for just trying and failing that alone connotes that are am heading for a good end and and am a genius. I deserve some love too.
You see there are many believes today that has made many people misunderstood what this love subject is all about, for instance the misconception of love your neighbor like yourself. many people dont really understand what that really means. That is why they can give millions to an outsider but deprive their healths a hundred.
Do you know that , the bible says you should love your neighbor but it should be like you love yourself? So thesame way you love yourself that is how you render to another. What you can't do to yourself , if you do it to another I think you are an hypocrite because it might not really come from your heart. But if you can do it to yourself you will definitely know the worth. Self love is not selfishness, infact it is the first ground to practice the act of love. So my beloved, tell me, if you don't love yourself how can you love your neighbor?
This is my entry for week 45 Edition 01 contest on Hive Learners community titled : Self-Love Feel free to check it out.