Surrogacy is a topic that I never really paid attention to until I started hearing stories from people who had experienced it. I grew up believing that having children was a natural and straightforward process, you get married and have kids. But as I got older, I realized that for some, it is not that easy. Many couples struggle with infertility, and medical advancements like surrogacy have given them a chance to become parents.
I first came across surrogacy when I heard the testimony of a woman who had gone through the process in my church. She had tried to conceive for many years without success, and after multiple medical procedures, she and her husband decided to use a surrogate. She shared how emotional and stressful the journey was, choosing the right surrogate, dealing with medical visits, and handling the anxiety of waiting for the baby. When she finally held her child, she said it was the happiest moment of her life. Listening to her story made me realize that surrogacy is not just about science, it is deeply personal and filled with emotions.
In my culture, if a woman couldn’t have children, people often blamed it on fate or spiritual reasons or maybe such a person was wayward while young. I always wondered why people neglect Adoption and rather remain childless. Later, I understood why some people prefer surrogacy. Some want a child who shares their genes and blood.
One thing that bothers me is how surrogacy has become a business in some places. Wealthy couples pay poor women to carry their babies. This raises questions are these women doing it freely, or because they need money? I read about a woman on social media who became a surrogate many times just to support her family. She said she was happy, but I couldn’t help wondering if she really had a choice though desperation leads people to make choices they never thought they would consider.
I also wonder about emotions. A mother naturally bonds with the baby she carries. How does a surrogate feel when she gives the baby away? Some say they feel fine, but is that true for all of them? Pregnancy is not just a physical process, it is an emotional one too. Imagine carrying a baby for nine months, feeling its movements, and then handing it over. No matter how much preparation is done or the money you are been paid, there must be moments of sadness or doubt.
Should Surrogacy Be Banned? I don’t think so. Some people have no other way to have children. But it should be done in a fair and ethical way, not as a business that takes advantage of poor women. Regulations need to be in place to protect both the surrogate mother and the intended parents. Surrogacy must remain a choice, not an obligation born out of financial hardship.
Surrogacy is a personal decision. While I may not choose it for myself, I respect those who do. Parenthood is a journey, and not everyone takes the same path. What matters most is that every child is loved and given a good life. Whether a child is born naturally, through surrogacy, or adopted, what truly makes a family is love, care, and commitment.
This is my response to today's episode of the hive-learners community prompt of #hl-w159e2 which the topic is tagged SURROGACY
