Sometimes, I just sit and wonder if men know how annoying they can be. Like, seriously. I’ve had moments where I asked myself, "Is this man trying to drive me crazy on purpose?" Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying all men are terrible. Some are wonderful. But let’s be real, even the sweet ones have their moments.
I’ve had moments where I just sit and think about some of the things I’ve experienced with men. Not the big or dramatic stuff but the little things. The kind of things that stay in your head longer than they should. Sometimes I questioned myself about men and how they were created. These are some of the attitudes I do not like in men and these are very common
SELECTIVE HEARING:- Have you ever talked to a man, and explained something in detail, only for him to ask you five minutes later what you just said? This one drives me mad. I once told a guy I was dating at the time that I had an important presentation at work the next day. I even told him the time and how nervous I was. Do you know what he said to me the next morning? “So, what are you doing today?”
I just stared at him like, “Are you joking?” I know it wasn’t intentional, but it hurt. It made me feel like my words just entered one ear and flew out the other. Sometimes, we women don’t want you to solve our problems we just want you to listen and remember.
THE NEED TO BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME:- Why do some men think apologizing is a sign of weakness? I’ve had arguments where I knew I wasn’t wrong, but I still apologized just to bring peace. Meanwhile, the man would hold on to his point like a trophy.
One day, I got into a small argument with my ex about something very silly who misplaced the TV remote. Instead of just helping me find it, he spent 20 minutes trying to prove it wasn’t him. I was like, “Bros, it’s not that deep. Just help me look for it.” That constant need to win an argument can really suck the peace out of a relationship. Sometimes, it’s okay to let things go.
ACTING CLUELESS ABOUT HOUSE CHORES:- This one is especially common in my culture. Some men act like they’re doing you a favor by washing plates or sweeping the floor. Meanwhile, both of you are working or even living in the same space.
One time, I visited my friend and watched her husband proudly announce, “I washed the plates today,” expecting praise. I just laughed silently. Imagine if a woman said that every time she cooked, cleaned, or folded laundry. Doing house chores is not a gender role, it’s a responsibility. If we both live here, we both work here.
GHOSTING:- This one is painful. Some men will chase you like they’re on a mission, and once they get your attention, they vanish. Or they pop in and out of your life like a network signal, only texting “hi” once in a while to keep you from moving on. I had someone I really liked, he disappeared from me for three weeks. No explanation. Then he came back like nothing happened, saying, “I’ve just been busy.” Busy? For 21 days straight? Even Jesus didn’t fast for that long without checking in. It’s disrespectful. If you’re not interested anymore, say it and leave. Don’t keep people hanging.
NOT TAKING "NO" GRACEFULLY:- Some men don’t take rejection well. You say “no,” and suddenly you’re "rude" or "proud." I once politely told a guy I wasn’t interested, and the next thing he said was, “You’re not even fine like that.” Excuse me? You were just praising me two minutes ago. Women are tired of being insulted just because they said “no.” Rejection is part of life. Take it with grace and move on.
It’s not about blaming anyone, but recognizing how small actions impact us. Awareness and respect are key to building healthier, more genuine relationships. Let’s grow and improve together.
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