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The raising of children is the most critical period of their lifetime because it is a formative stage i.e. the bedrock or foundation for the years to come and hence, must be done with all intentionality, prayerfully and carefully. It takes the unity of the couple to raise their children with each person with a unique role and supply. While raising children, basic values of life, good etiquettes, morals etc are instill into them and it is always glaring/evident when a child is raised well and even if otherwise. Raising children doesn't mean to be coarse or harse on them, but it is a training moment for them for a better life and future. 
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A bad upbringing leads to many of the problems facing the society and nation as a whole e.g. socail vices. Personally, as a man of discipline, i will not allow room for overpampering and indiscipline in raising my children because it most time results to a default upbringing which most time are irredeemable when grown up except by divine intervention. Overpampering signifies indulgence, excessive care etc which do spoil such children and it has negative effects on them on the long run. Indiscipline means lack of self-control, inorderliness, disobedience to authorities at all level etc which all are bad ways of raising children. There is high rise of overpampared and indisciplined children nowadays due to bad parentage whether the parents don't invest quality time aside money in raising their children or they been a negative example to them. 
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I'm an advocate of good children upbringing through quality resources, investments, trainings and most importantly time because children learn better from what they see their parents do by observation (informally) than that of outsiders where most times they learn wrong practices from uncultured friends, neighbours or faulty society. The three most important cause of overpampering and indiscipline include parents lack of mutual intentionality/understanding of raising children, lack of quality time together with the children and wrong/faulty parental influence (leadership). Raising children for me will include been a good parent (father) through careful living in understanding, spending quality time with family, training moments both informally/formally, careful observation and attention given to the children and most importantly to me, raising them in the way of God. I'm a product of good upbringing and I'm still enjoying it today and thanks to my parents and all others that invested in us then. Kindly note that i don't mean not providing for your children or been harse towards them but the balance is that while providing the necessary and doing the necessary things, deliberate trainings, mentorships and raising with good values, morals, etiquettes, discipline isn't ignored totally all because they are children or due to prior personal experiences which are not too good. 
I have seen children of both rich and poor with good upbringing and i have seen the otherwise aswell. My true wish is to see well brought up children who are responsible and who brings joy and pride to their families and not the otherwise. I have made the commitment and resolution to make the difference as seen in wonderful examples of mentors i know of and that nomatter what and against the abuse/neglect in families, mine will be a difference. Thank you for reading and i wish you a great week ahead. Comments, suggestions and contributions are welcomed.
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