There is no one on earth who would be happy to have lost something, even when that thing isn't of value at first, but after losing it, they become sad because they know the value of what they lost.
Growing up into an adult, I have lost a lot of things along the way: friends, relationships, money, opportunities, and so on. Dealing with this kind of emotion is not very easy because you begin to question a lot of things about yourself or the kind of decisions you made. I have come to understand one thing: there is a reason for everything, and everything works together for good.
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In the end, the question remains
"How do you deal with it/heal from it, starting when it happens?"
Hello amazing readers, My name is Fashtioluwa, and in today's blog, I will be sharing some of my experience and how I was able to deal with/heal from this loss. Sit back and relax, and you'll read top-notch content.
Losing a family member can be one of life's most significant sorrows, especially when you care for them deeply. Although I haven't lost any immediate family members, I have experienced the loss of a cousin, an uncle, and an aunt. These are people with whom I shared many cherished memories and spent a great deal of time.
I remember when I lost my uncle; he was a very kind man. I was staying with him when I was in a higher institution; not just me, but some of my cousins who study in the same city live with him. I was able to connect with some of my cousins and extended family members because of him. He provided everything we needed, and he was a funny man.
I was in school when I got the call that he died on his sickbed. I was heartbroken because it felt like I had lost a father figure. I cried so much, and at that point, if I could bring the dead back to life, I would have done that without a second thought.
How did I deal with all emotions?
I did receive a lot of help and consolation from friends. One of the most underrated gifts in life is having a good and caring friend. I had a friend who at that time was so close to me. She was there to talk to me and encourage me and I allowed her to do all this. I never pushed her away in any way because I was in pain; this gentle soul helped quench the burning fire that was inside of me, which almost consumed me.
I also prayed a lot because I needed the spirit of God to help me understand what was happening. Was there a reason why he died? He was a good man; shouldn't he be alive so he can help all of us?
All these thoughts crossed my mind but I knew I had to pray more and ask for help. I spoke with my spiritual father and he helped me during this time too.
I began attending class and channeled all my pain into passing my exams with excellent results.
That was how I was able to deal with that loss at that particular time. Losses are not things we plan to happen; they just happen to us without any notice, which is why sometimes, if we are not a little prepared for everything, when losses happen, it can change our world forever. Some people came out of the storm stronger and had reason to go, while others didn't survive the storm period.
How we deal with our loss matters in the next chapter of our lives.
Thanks for reading.
