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I am writing about a Lie I believed wholeheartedly. When i saw this topic it took me back to memory lane and i was just laughing all through and wondering how Naive i could have been for such a lie to be said to me and i believed it wholeheartedly maybe i will say probably because it came from my Mum that's why i did believe it.
It was funny how I believed the lie my mum told me. I never would have thought what she said was a lie because it came from my Mum so I never imagined my Mum lying to me. One of the days on social media i read where it was captured "A child was told that if she swallows a Star Apple seed it will grow inside her stomach i was so amazed by the girls response she said No that's a lie there is no sunlight in our stomach to help the seed grow" and i was like this generation are very wise and not Naive as most of us were. I was imagining telling such a lie that was told to me by this girl. I have been trying to think about what her response will be.
During my adolescence, i was about 11yrs old or thereabout and if i am not mistaken i was in either Jss2 or jss 3. I was in school and when i used the restroom i discovered some blood stains on my underwears and i was like so very scared i have never had such experience before. I was crying and as an introvert that i was then i could not tell anyone about it. At the close of school i got home and i was able to tell my mum about it and when she saw it she smiled and told me i was now an adult and i still did not understand she told me that i have start seeing my menstrual flow because i have heard my colleagues talked about it so i understood what she said. So she therefore went ahead to say At this stage any man that touches you, Boom you will get pregnant and this put fear inside of me.
At some point I was after all u dont even talk with boys so why would a boy touch me for me to get pregnant. This made me so conscious of the gender i related with on a fateful day something happened while walking up a stairs a boy from nowhere came and started talking to me and before you know it he hung his hand on me he touched me if you see the way i was shouting on him and crying at the same time why did you touch me? I was not myself till the close of school. I was crying non stop thinking about what my mum told me. I could not tell her i didn't even know how to tell her that a boy touched me. So I stayed observing how my tummy will start getting big. I stayed for months and nothing happened to me.
The funny thing is, I was now the one that went and touched a man just to observe something and my brothers and my sisters nothing happened to me. And there I was bold enough to tell someone else about it and they laughed at me. They told me my Mum lied to me that's not how to get pregnant and someone else lectured me and since then I lost trust for my mum. I think the right thing would have been for her to tell me the truth the right way, not for her telling me the wrong thing. Once a man touches me I will get pregnant. I believe at my age I would have understood the truth.
And this would have made me build more trust for her. Even when i entered into a senior class and sex education was taught i was always laughing and at the same time i was not happy that my mum would have pushed me to trouble by telling me a lie. Probably i would have wanted to explore more to get to know what my mum told me and what my friends told me to know who actually said the truth and probably I would have ended up pregnant. So parents should endeavor to spill the truth to their children especially things like this rather than allowing a stranger to lecture them. If not this will lose trust and confidence in telling the mum things and prefer talking to outsiders.
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