Disappointment is a core part of life. Hardly can a week go by without a person experiencing one disappointment or the other.
All disappointments do not weigh same but a disappointment is painful regardless.
In our relationships with people, there are people whom we trust so much. We don't expect to face disappointment from these persons. Our trust is either based on how honourable they appear or how trustworthy they have shown themselves to be. There are also those who we do not give the benefit of doubt because of their track records.
Now, you will agree with me that when we face disappointment from those we trust, it is more heartbreaking because of the confidence we have bestowed in them either consciously or unconsciously.
This was my situation a few months ago just before writing my final year exams and I was battling with finances.
One of our classmates called me, he was in financial distress and needed to borrow some money. This came as a surprise because this guy was among those that owned a car and I knew he was comfortable. We were in good terms and greeted each other well but I cannot particularly call him my close friend.
He asked me for ₦50,000 which was too much, he promised that his dad who lives outside the country will send his allowance soon. I told him that what I could spare was ₦20,000 and he agreed, promising to pay back by the end of the next week. Honestly, I only agreed because I believed he will send it back by the next weekend as promised. He was also religious and appeared Godly so it gave me more confidence in him.
Long story short, this guy has not paid me since about 6 months now. Even at a time I needed the money desperately, I called him but he gave excuses and ended by telling me that he has not forgotten and that he will definitely pay me.
The painful part is that on his WhatsApp status, he always posts pictures of going out for expensive events and having fun.
I no longer ask him for the money because obviously, he does not want to pay me but that was what came to my mind immediately I saw the topic of the prompt.
This has made me more careful with borrowing money to people, I avoid it at all costs and even when I feel the strong urge to help someone, I ensure the amount is what I can easily let go off in case the person begins to delay with the agreement. This is because I don't like disturbing people, even when they are owing me. So it is better if I avoid situations that could lead to this from the very beginning.
This is my submission for the #januaryinleo prompt day 18. You are welcome to participate in this monthly contest organised by inleo, here is the link to the prompt.
All images are mine
- cover image was designed on canva