I heaved a huge sigh of relief when I checked the countdown for the submission of this prompt and saw that there were still two days left. I’d have felt disheartened because if there’s any topic that I love talking about and could probably listen to forever, it’s got to be love and relationships.
Even though it’s not everyone’s cup of tea at different points. Probably cause we’ve been burnt before or had our hearts broken. Nevertheless, because we have a God who is all about love, I think the innate need of every human being is to love and also have love shown to them. Since the aspect of love we’re dealing with today centres on the relationship kind of love, that’s what will be focusing on today.
How do I make myself the best partner for my significant other?
This is a delicate topic for me because it’s not asking how we can sell ourselves short to please our partners or belittle ourselves so that someone else may be exalted. It’s asking how we can be the best partner for our significant others.
The first way to me, is:
To Love Ourselves first. I said something like this in one of the posts I wrote recently and I want to repeat it because it’s something many of us may not know that we’re neglecting. When we treat ourselves with care, taking care of our bodies and our minds.
When we don’t treat ourselves with disdain and speak only positivity about ourselves. When we see ourselves as enough and hold ourselves in a high esteem that has nothing to do with vain pride and being egotistic.
When we express pride in who we are as a person(not what we’ve achieved) but the battles we’ve won and the inner demons we’ve conquered, that’s what makes us more attractive as a person. That’s how we can show love to our partners. Because we already know first-hand what it means to love since we’ve given it in abundance to ourselves.
The next way and closely related to the first is:
To Be The Best Version Of Ourselves. I’ve quoted this particular love minister before and I’ll do so again. He says that many relationships fail because many of us are looking for our other halves. The other halves that would complete us. But the right thing is to look for our other full. That looking for the other half means that we see ourselves as incomplete. We see ourselves as lacking so we search for someone to fill that gap. By doing so, we now find someone who also sees himself as lacking. And so how would the relationship work? Since we’re all half-full glasses.
Being the best version of ourselves transcends love now, and is about doing what is best for us as an individual. It involves broadening our horizons by reading books and watching videos that edify us and build our character. It involves acquiring a skill that would go a long way in bettering our finances. It involves working on our mental and psychological power. Keeping fit, having a goal and actively working towards it.
Those kinds of things produce the best version of ourselves and then our significant other is moved to be the best he or she could be because they see that this person works towards being the best for herself, by herself. It’s the most amazing sense of self-satisfaction that follows doing this.
If someone doesn’t make me stop, I will bring out a hundred other points, lol. But since I am gunning for just three powerful ones, I’ll say the last one which isn’t in any way less important than the previous two. In my opinion, it’s one of the greatest.
So last but not least we have:
To Be Kind. I cannot, for the life of me not stress the importance of being kind as a person. Kindness is the most attractive thing on a person, just a little after confidence. When I hear people listing out the things they want in a partner and they skip a kind person, I shake my head. Because that’s one of the greatest attributes that would endear me to a person and how I want my significant other to see me.
A kind person would respect his partner’s feelings and emotions. A kind person won’t always do things because he wants something in return. A kind person would not throw your insecurities in your face. A kind person would be respectful even during heavy arguments. They wouldn’t say things that would bring you down as a person and blame it on the heat of the moment. A kind person, when there’s a little separation or moment of resentment, wouldn’t brandish the person’s secrets to outsiders as a way of getting back or maybe out of spite.
Kindness in a person is what makes Acts of Service one of my favourite love languages. Acts of service imply that you show kindness even in the littlest moments. It means that whether the person is around or not, you do little things because you know it will bring a smile to that person’s face. It’s like you say, “I know we’re fighting but that doesn’t mean I’d leave your clothes out in the rain or cook spicy food when I know your system can’t tolerate spicy meals.”
You may say that you can only do this when you truly love someone but I think these things don’t have to centre on love but just being kind as a human being. So now there’s an answer to the question of how to be the best partner for my significant other. Simple. Love yourself. Be the best version of yourself. Show kindness every step of the way. It’s a fountain of ever-flowing water in your relationship once you apply these.
Lots of love to all who come across this,
Jhymi🖤
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