People face abuse in relationships with their partners, friends and even at their workplace. But one thing I know is that there was the sign of such abuse before it started becoming obvious in a relationship but those signs were been overlooked.
I know of a couple where the husband beats his wife almost everyday for almost no reason. And the woman was like "She knew about that side of him before they got married but she thought he would change someday". That's a really stupid thing to think of, just because you love the person doesn't mean you will risk your life for someone to use you as a punching bag.
For those who don't know the signs of an abusive relationship, I know of some and I will be sharing them here.
How To Identify An Abusive Relationship?
Control
Abusers want to have full authority over their partner. They want to know where you are, what you're doing and even control where you should go. They like to be in charge of everything including finance.
Gas Light
Abusers make you doubt yourself especially when you try to share how you feel with them, they make you think there's something wrong with the way you feel (Psychological abuse). They even tend to blame their misfortune on you so you could feel the need to always fix things.
Manipulative
Abusers who are financially stable make sure to provide all your needs and they make you an object of their righteousness. They make you feel that you can't survive without them. They mostly want to play victim so you feel sorry for them, they can be very manipulating.
Insecurity
Abusers feel insecure and threatened by your progress so they try to prevent you from becoming financially stable. In that way, you will only have to depend on them for life. I've seen a movie where the man was unhappy that his wife was making it big with her music, he almost killed his wife out of insecurities.
Verbal Insults
Of course it's very easy and normal for abusers to insult, they disrespect and say less of you in front of your friends, family and even your children.
Hypersensitive
Abusers are happy one minute and raging with anger the next minute. Their hypersensitiveness makes you to be fearful and careful around them since you don't know what to expect.
Aggressive
This is the highlight of all the signs to identify an abuser. Abusers intimidate, threaten and even hit you without remorse or empathy but they can become very nice after an episode of abuse.
These signs are very easy to identify and be avoided by all means. So many people have lost their lives in an abusive relationship because they failed to identify and walk away from such situations.