At some point in life, we need to understand and accept that some people will come into our lives, promise us something we need dearly, and then disappoint us. It's a part of life and there's nothing we can do to avoid it. The least we can do is stop expecting so much from others so that when they disappoint us, we're fine and won't overthink it.
I've had my fair share of disappointments, especially from people close to me, and honestly, it wasn't a good experience. Imagine wanting something so badly, and someone close to you promises to get it for you, only to end up not delivering and they start avoiding you as if you're begging.
I'm not someone who likes asking people for things at all so when my dad passed, it was hard for me. If I needed something as simple as a pair of shoes, I wouldn't ask. I'd just stay quiet because I felt it wasn't anyone's responsibility to take care of me except him. Eventually, I realized he was no longer here and I needed to speak up when I needed something. But the response I got was so disappointing (my mum gave me her best and I appreciate every effort❤️🤗)I told myself I wouldn't ask again. And even if I did, I'd also find a way to get it for myself. That way, if one side failed, I'd always have another option.
To be honest, the reason I started working at an early age and still work for my own money is because I've had my fair share of disappointment. I was so disappointed that I didn't ask people for money or even a pen anymore. If I do ask, then it should probably be an emergency and I don't have the means to solve it at that moment. I always make it clear that I'll pay back so people don't see me as a liability and avoid helping me.
Before going to school, many people promised to assist me. They assured me not to worry, that they had my back. After experiencing disappointment, I realized it was wise to have my own plan in place, and if their help comes through, great, then if not, it's also fine. With the amount of disappointment I've faced, some days I just laugh and cry a little, and I thank God for making me someone who always has a backup plan and doesn't rely on others.
Some things are better left unsaid, but one piece of advice I'd like to share is this: never put your trust and hope in someone. If you're someone who asks, go ahead and ask. And if you're someone who doesn't, still ask if you're in dire need, but remember that you're dealing with humans, and they may disappoint you. Always have a plan B, and that plan should involve you saving yourself.
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There's a saying; " Money that's not in your hand isn't yours".
What does it mean?
Just because someone promises to give you something by a certain time doesn't mean you'll get it. Even tho it's a debt the person is owing and is planning on giving you the money by 12. As long as that money is not in your hands, then it's not yours. Be careful when dealing with people to avoid too much disappointment.*
Well, it's the weekend and I hope you take the time to rest and recharge ✨.
This post is in response to Inleo's monthly prompt