A beautiful scene happened today in school as one of my students whose in the "average" category stood shoulders up during a class "Skills Presentation Session". his performance was unexpected as he was not among the class toppers. However, when it comes to skills, he stands out, being the son of a renown artist in the neighborhood and he's grown to be a part of his father's art and craft business from toddling years.
During today's presentation, he didn't just present his art with elegance he was so proud while making his presentation to the class. While he expressed that unusual confidence, all I could see was the power of "competence". You could feel from his voice and expression that he wasn't a novice in the art. This experience inspired this post and I can say that gaining mastery and expertise creates an authentic, lasting assurance.
Where does true confidence come from?
Confidence, at its core, is a belief in one’s abilities and judgment. This is a question many would ask especially where some people derive their confidence from their outlook and aesthetics. However, the answer lies in competence which is the solid foundation of skill, knowledge, and experience. While some may exude charisma or speak assertively, genuine confidence is born from a deep-seated knowledge that we can meet challenges effectively. This relationship between confidence and competence is crucial, as confidence without genuine competence can lead to poor judgment, while competence without confidence can stifle potential.
When competence is the foundation, confidence becomes more than just a state of mind; it is a reflection of real capabilities. This competence-backed confidence allows people to approach tasks and challenges without fear, knowing they have the skills to succeed or, at the very least, to learn from their experiences.
How does Competence Build Confidence?
Competence can be developed in various areas — technical skills, interpersonal abilities, problem-solving, and decision-making. Here’s how I think of competence that nurtures confidence:
- Skills Mastery: Competence begins with skill acquisition. As individuals develop proficiency in specific tasks, they become more comfortable performing them. The more one practices, the more these tasks become second nature. For instance, my student that performed excellently during the presentation. A musician who practices daily builds both technical skills and an assurance that they can perform in front of an audience. Mastery of a skill brings about an organic confidence, which extends to all areas related to that skill.
Knowledge Accumulation: Confidence often depends on knowledge which includes understanding both the “what” and the “why.” For example, a doctor who knows the intricacies of human anatomy and the latest medical research approaches patients with confidence. Competence in any field involves continuous learning, and knowledge strengthens our belief in our abilities, will help us make informed decisions.
A Record of Success: Achievements, either big or small, solidifies confidence. Each success confirms one’s ability to handle tasks effectively. Reflecting on these accomplishments can provide reassurance that future challenges can also be met, fueling a sense of competence-based confidence.
Relying solely on confidence without competence can lead to overestimation and risky decisions. Without the anchor of competence, confidence may become arrogance, and can lead individuals to ignore risks, overlook crucial details, or neglect the need for preparation. This “false confidence” can result in costly errors, both in personal and professional contexts. Competence, therefore, acts as a natural check that keeps confidence grounded in reality and responsibility.
How do we Cultivate Competence that births Confidence?
Building competence-based confidence requires discipline, perseverance, and humility. One must commit to lifelong learning. Competence is not a destination but an ongoing journey. Staying updated with industry trends, learning new tools, or acquiring additional skills keeps us relevant and confident.
While learning and practicing what is learnt, one must be open to constructive feedback. Asking for feedback from others can reveal blind spots and help us improve. Constructive criticism points out areas where we can sharpen our skills and expand our knowledge and reinforce our competence and, subsequently, our confidence.
Also, the willingness to teach other what we know will help us solidify our knowledge and as well build confidence as we share our expertise. Guiding someone else through a process demonstrates a mastery of the material, reinforcing our own competence.
Competence-backed confidence is essential in leadership. Leaders who possess this quality inspire trust and respect from their teams. Employees are more likely to follow leaders who display genuine skill and knowledge rather than empty bravado. Leaders with competence-based confidence make balanced, informed decisions, handle crises with poise, and cultivate a culture where learning and skill development are prioritized. Through their example, they empower others to pursue competence and grow in confidence.
Let us strive to cultivate competence, for it is in the depth of our abilities that we find enduring confidence.
Meanwhile, please send some flowers to my boy that inspired this piece.