First of all, i was never a social person and i am still not a social person just that there is a whole lot of difference and changes now.
I grew up to always love my space, love my private life, with no friends and no enemy...
I just loved that time alone period. I was a certified loner and i really really enjoyed.
It got to a point that, my parents were really really scared,.... They were always begging me to at least find s Friend for myself.... But the thing is that i enjoyed my life.
In my secondary school, i was starting in the hostel, and anyone that found me will always find me in my little corner alone and this really helped me and saved me from a lot of troubles.
But growing up, i discovered that life is more fun when one is social, you talk when necessary, you play when necessary, you work when necessary.... Like, that joy of socializing with people around you....
I can actually share how my social life came to be!
When i started university, i left my house environment to a very different environment with that non social kind of life thinking i will be able to work it out just like i always do.... I purposely refused to relate with people even when they tried to know me.
I was an introvert And part of it is still in me.
I will always prefer staying in my lane. So i met my mentor and i started staying with him, and in the process of staying with him everything changed.
Normally, whatsoever anyone is discussing is actually non of my business, infact anything that one does doesn't concerns me.... I was just all about me.
In that house people from different homes resides too, it wasn't just me and it was our duty to social with each other.. but I didn't. Anytime there are discussing in parlour, i will go to the room and stay with my earphones and phone....
And then he will come to the room and scream,..... What are you doing here when everyone else is out there gisting and laughing everytime, he kept telling me that and i got used to it....
Even though i won't contribute, let me just stay there and enjoy the conversation with others.
Also because i was a non social person, I didn't go for any events that would warrant me to socialize with any group of persons... Not even church activities not even weddings, burial, birthday parties etc.
But when i started staying there, i went to every single church program with him as his PA then. And through every church ministrations we were invited to, i Followed him and i socialize with every person because of him.
I joined the choir too not just home choir but across the areas and national and i still socialize with a lot of people....
Mind you, when i was always indoors, i was mostly depress most times but then i enjoyed my space......
In all of these, all i am saying is that, i have benefited from being a social And a non social person.....
I sm two of these which has balanced my life, because it is not everytime you have to be social And there are sometimes you have to be Non-Social.
My sociality has helped me to get to know and learn from other people.
Being social has it advantages and disadvantages and being Non-Social has it advantages and disadvantages too and i choose to balance both....
But even uptill now i don't know my flat mates names because i am always inside my room.... I have purposely refused to socialize with them to avoid see finish 🤣😭 and unnecessary things....
Life of a social And Non-Social person
Thank you for reading my bloy
