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We have come to that period of the year again, where a lot of people will be attempting to block our ears with silly rants that only serve as cliches.
They will utter words that hold no water.
Empty phrases would be spat from their oral cavity, out of naivety.
From lived experience, I am compelled to believe that a lot of people are usually pressurized or influenced by others to make resolutions they have no intent on keeping.
One of the commonest of such resolutions is 'cutting ties with wrong company or relationships'.
You will hear a lot of people saying;
"this year I'm cutting off bad relationships and friendships"
Isn't it funny that the same set of people who want to cut off wrong relationships this december, said the same thing last year and many other years before last?
Anyway, it might not be funny to you, but it's the joke of the century to me.
Come to think of it;
Is it that this people cut ties with this bad company in decembers, only to join themselves to a fresh but another wrong company few months later?
Come on, you can't possibly be trying solve the same problem every year, without results.
You can't be having wrong companies and friends all the time.
If you actually cut off wrong company last year, you shouldn't be in a wrong company this year.
It shows a lack of progress.
A persistent situation is akin to a stagnant water. It doesn't flow.
It's a clear sign that you haven't grown beyond your previous level of maturity, intelligence and capacity.
When you grow, you outgrow certain problems.
The truth is, if you do nothing about your growth, you'll still sing this same song come next year december.
You'll keep joining the same chorus year in, year out.
It is sad that we have been programmed to look everywhere but ourselves.
Growth and personal development begins with a sincere self appraisal.
You need to ask yourself some hard questions and supply yourself with honest answers.
You should be asking yourself;
"what's that thing about me, that keeps attracting bad company to me?"
Truth be told, we attract our kind.
Lions do not hang out with sheeps, neither would you find eagles in the company of chickens.
If you always find yourself in wrong companies, it suggests that you're not too different from those you call wrong-people.
We attract our kind.
This year if you actually want to cut off wrong relationships and companies.
I want you to Change strategy.
Yes you heard me right! Change strategy. If you don't, you'll remain a colossal failure as far as leaving a wrong company is concerned.
Here's the new strategy;
Instead of blaming your friends, it's time you cut off wrong habits.
Instead of always cutting off wrong company, it's time you learned how to not join one.
The truth is, two cannot walk together except they agree.
You are in the company you are because you are in agreement with them.
The moment your activities, and focus changes, there are people who would find it difficult to associate with you.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to take your knife or machete from you.
Cut off all you want, but until you cut ties with certain habits you'll keep attracting the same set of persons you're trying to cut ties with.