In recent years, the marriage between a man and a woman has been seen, as part of an alliance for life, it has become for the world an institution to be destroyed, because people join in marriage, to find comfort , to leave the house of the parents, to repair an error, to have children, to satisfy sexual desires, and other motives very different from the love and the designs of God for the marriage, as it is to become one flesh.
Since God gave life to human beings, He has imagined marriage as one of the frames of flowering. To build a good relationship, it has always been necessary to move from the ideal to reality, from human independence to dependence on God.
In Genesis 2: 18-24: The LORD God said: It is not good for a man to be alone; I will help you like it. And Jehovah God formed all the animals of the field, and all the birds of the air, from the earth, and brought them to man to see how he called them, and to give to every living thing the name that man. And the man gave names to all the cattle, to the birds of the air, and to all the animals of the field; but for the man he did not find help like him. And Jehovah God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, who fell asleep; He took one of his ribs and closed the meat instead.
And Jehovah God formed a woman from the coast that he took from man, and brought him to man. And the man said: This time is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh! They will call her a woman, because she has been taken from man. That is why a man will leave his father and mother, and will join his wife, and they will become one flesh.
The term couple, to designate the union of man and woman, is recently used in the current language. However, the Bible "Both will become one flesh."
The unity between women and men is one of the main foundations of marriage. As the biblical passage says, they are no longer two, but only one person. To make a successful marriage, a couple must understand that it forms a single entity. This unity, when fully lived, eliminates the duality that opposes people. The relationship between the two is not one of domination over another, but of complementarity in unity. Actually, the two are still separate people who complement each other because of their differences.
We know that man and woman are different in many ways. When one tries to dominate the other by persisting in ignoring their reciprocal differences, unity is broken. A couple is a set of two different entities that complement each other because of their differences. It is precisely because they are different that they can complement each other. They both need each other. What man does not have is his wife who owns it, and vice versa. But that is exactly where the whole problem of marriages without God is: we want to remain independent of the other while we are married. This creates a duality that can only lead to division. Staying independent and married at the same time is a contradiction that partly explains the failure of many marriages.
Christian couples are not necessarily free of difficulties, but they have the privilege of benefiting from the reliable foundations of the Word of God.
Leaving father and mother, is the choice to give up a link of multiple dependencies made of material, financial, emotional and security comfort. Keep in mind that it is not antagonistic to respect them, love them and listen to their advice.
Attaching to each other means giving up independence and a certain amount of freedom. It is choosing to engage with someone to discover, deal with our differences and build an entity that is different from our childhood. It is my spouse who becomes my closest being.
Adhering is a long-term commitment to the benefits of sharing our differences and the ability to build with our individualities. To be attached is to develop a spiritual bond with our spouse.
When God says that man will join his wife and become one flesh: God reminds us that sexuality is a gift in his project of happiness for his creatures. The Bible recognizes sexual needs and develops a positive and not guilty approach to sexuality. Becoming one flesh is not just sexuality. And sexuality is not just a sex story. But its development goes hand in hand with an emotional unity and a safe and peaceful relationship.
So, let's take the time to cultivate a romantic context and do not be stingy in acts or in non-sexual words that tell our spouse as: "I love you". The quality of our relationship with God also has an impact on it.