A Memoir
Prologue: Beliefs are elusive. They are like roots that were planted in our minds during childhood - or came with us in the DNA - and have grown to become thorns or roses. I have found out that cutting them would not help and they need to be unrooted, plain and simple.
Not every belief that you hold needs to be directly related to Love. Often times many of our world-views just slightly touch that issue. Take for instance a girl who has experienced several unsuccessful relationships – perhaps some were abusive as well; she might have developed a negative opinion about men in general. She then might say “there are no really good men around” and that belief in itself is like saying: “I do not believe in True Love”. Why? Because True Love necessitates the initial existence of at least one good man – to say the least – and if that girl’s life is full of “non-good men” she will never find the Love she desires. Notice how a simple and somewhat hidden belief that was crystallized along the years in one’s life shapes that one’s current reality in the present.
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Let’s examine another example.
Take a mature woman who has a family and children to care for, and who secretly dreams about and believes in a grandiose love that will undoubtedly come to sweep her away towards happiness and richness. That woman may create for herself the kind of love-fantasy that she regularly sees on a soap-opera on TV and for her the belief itself in the existence of the fantasy is wonderful. However, what might foreclose her from manifesting that fantasy is the separation she puts between the fantasy and her own “realistic” life! Whereas she declares that she believes in TrueLove she holds a counter belief that cancels the former:
“…but who would ever want a mother of three…?! ”, or
“…but how can I find the time to look for love? I need to provide for my family, don’t I?…”
or, in the case that we speak about a married woman:
“Of course I want TrueLove but my husband doesn’t believe in such nonsense, so what can I do?”…
Self responsibility
The common denominators for the above statements are the impuissance, the weakness and the despair that are sometimes being demonstrated by human beings. Next to their strong belief in TrueLove they cast off the responsibility for their life on outside circumstances, seemingly detached from them and outside of their reach. By that, they put a huge fence in the way of TrueLove towards them. Pay attention, how such declarations are a way for humans to give their power away.
Sometimes, even the most seemingly remote thought can be the one to cause difficulties and to prevent you from allowing realization and love into your lives. If you think “the world belongs to the youngsters”, or “life is difficult”, or “I don’t require much from life, I settle for the minimum” – then you block Love. Why? Because True Love is about joy, about compassion, about equality (and no matter how old you are) and about manifesting your wildest dreams. How can you expect to have A Realization when you settle for the minimum? When your soul hears you it says “they are not ready yet”, and turns away to find someone whose limitless dreams and desires touch the sky.
You must act responsibly in your lives and pay attention to every thought, saying or deed because they show the beliefs you hold about life. In time and practice, the appropriate set of beliefs will naturally develop within you and you will no longer need to continuously check and analyze your mind chatter.
You need to hear yourself
Perhaps you say now that I was exaggerating. “Come’ on, we just joke about it. Of course there are good men; of course we deserve to have a good relationship; of course we want the best;” Well, if all that is so obvious then why don’t you declare that to yourselves and your friends?! And besides, are you sure that you really believe that and not just saying it?!
Some of you may say: “but how can I believe in TrueLove?! Don’t you see what’s going on in the world?! So many collapsing relationships and divorces, so much physical abuse, so many lonely souls. How can I believe, how?!”
