Sometimes, things happen in our life and we always understand that thing or that situation from one said, often times, it's always from the negative side. Before I conclude anything, I always remind myself a very popular saying, "there is two said to a coin", same way, you can always view life from two different angles.
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Enjoy Things By Looking At Them In A Different Perspective🤔🤔. Over the years, I have hear people tell me, I have a wild thought, and I always take my time to understand a situation or a problem before reacting, well it's not always true, but 80% of the time, they are right to say that about me. I have always known and believe there is always more to a story or a situation, why just view it from the surface when you can actually unlock the secret in that situation? But when digging to find the secret, what do you search to find? Is it more negativity or you want to see the positive side? Well, the answer for me is always the positive side, I try to always see the bright side of things instead of wasting my time with negativity. My Hive blog is the only place I share most of my experience, I really don't bother to tell people about anything I'm going through, everyone always see a happy me, but you see this platform, is the one place I jot down what I really want to say to anyone.
Some years back, I finished from the university, knowing my country, you could job hunt for so many years, and still, no real opportunity will come, well, I applied for teaching position after I returned home, and yes, I was still searching for other good opportunities too. My dad was kind enough to give me a flat in the compound where he live, so, I was in the same compound with him but in my own flat. I got a job as a teacher in a private school, to be honest, if not that I was in my father's house, I don't think the money received as salary would have been able to keep me going. But I had a goal, which was to support my dad and also save to get most of my machines to help start my sewing properly when I am finally settled a bit. Well, for years, I have been doing that, I mean supporting the home and also buying some my machines.
But there was one little challenge I have been having, and that's my dad not being able to mind his business 🤦, he is always looking for ways to monitor everything I do, what I do and how I go about them, and when things begin to look like that, that means you are beginning to encroach my space and also mess with my freedom. There was a time I returned from school, and noticed somethings in the apartment was not exactly how I left them, I asked myself, did someone enter the apartment and mess with my stuff, but then, I know the only one who had access to my apartment is my dad, I'm someone who respect people's space and never try to use their properties in their absence, so it vex me whenever someone does same to me. But that first time I noticed it, I honestly ignored the whole thing. It occur twice again but I just ignored the whole thing and move on.
But something happened recently, while he was trying to access my apartment this time, because the front door handle was faulty and I am they only one who know how to manipulate it, the door handle broke in the process and he was left with no option than to wait till I closed from school to report himself 🤦. Honestly speaking, I would have fix that handle a long time ago, but something keep on telling me to wait, and I finally understood why. When I returned from school and he explained everything, I was already boiling inside, I get angry easily and I remembered sharing here before that my students have been the one calming me down over the years, because I really can't imagine having kids and them getting scared of me because of my temper, so I guess I was not only getting paid where I work, but I am also fixing myself. So, my dad made matter worst when he said he can open the door (I know how to open the door, but I was so angry and was controlling myself because I honestly don't want to lunch my anger, so I told myself, he must open it today🤦🤦), but then, while he was sweating and trying to open the door, he was even damaging things more, and by the time he realised it, he had to call someone that can do it.
Now, the door is no longer in a state where I can open it, so we all waited, but the man can barely look at me at this point, because it was written all over me that I was angry at him. Clearly, this was the height for me, and the last I could tolerate. The man he called finally came, and he opened the down, he took down the handle that was there and said, whenever we purchase a new one, let's call him to fix it. What got me to light up the whole place with my anger was when my dad was about going to loose the handle of the back door to replace that of the front door, and I had to stop him, I told him I have had enough of him causing me so much mental stress, and I was very blunt with him that day, I shouldn't have get so angry, but, I have been poked for too long and wasn't ready to be cool anymore. My dad has his ego and will never admit he was wrong, so what did he do, he said some stuffs too. We had a very strong argument that evening and I told him how he has been all over my space for too long and it's time he stay away. I don't joke with my Freedom, and when I mean Freedom, I'm talking about both physically and even mentally, his actions always mess with my mental state and it affects how productive I am sometimes, so I had to end it. Well, he has always see me as the rebel kid, because I am the only one that will not follow is path and also will never stop telling him his wrong doings, and he hate being told he is on the wrong side.
Well, that evening, I purchased a new handle and fixed it, and later put a call through to the man to come complete the fixing the next day after I returned from school (which he did the next day). But that night, I thought of the whole thing, this wasn't just happening, it was a sign, each time the man poke me, I always try to get the inner message of everything, but most times, I just ignore the whole thing. But this one time, I told myself, it's actually a challenge to me, it's time I leave and stand my own ground, it's time I take 100% responsibility for everything. I don't know how I will do it, but it's a wake up call. I woke up the next morning, and I did everything I always do. I stopped getting angry and start working towards my next move, no luck yet, but I really hope to leave the house before this month end. I'm not mad at my dad, I'm only seeing the positive side of the whole thing, even though he did made a comment that he want me out of his compound, I don't see it as anything, I'm seeing it as a big challenge I want to really face. Like I said, it wouldn't be easy, it will be rough but I will always do it.
I go to school that morning, even more happy, my kid brother, who witness everything the night before, I still pay his bills to school (something I have been supporting my dad with for a long time), and the kid was surprise how I could move on so quick and act like nothing happened. Well, to me, nothing really happened, I only got a message and that message was well understood. So, there is always a two side to everything, things happen because there is something to learn from it, why not take what's important and move on. I know what I need to do, and I am working hard to do it, because it is the right thing to do. Also, I didn't bother making noise about the whole thing (which is not my style anyways), I have been leaving each day and minding my business till I will be leaving. In every situation, try to always find the hidden message, and act with that. Sorry this had to be a very long one, but then, thank you for being a good reader as always.
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