In the family, men hide "black fund" is a concern but with women is the intelligence should be cheered.
A black fund is a separate, confidential financial part (usually a fundraiser). It will either be publicized later or hidden depending on the decision maker. In the home, the wife is usually the financial manager, "confiscated" nearly all his husband's salary should be quite constrained in spending. They were forced to "hide" by hiding "black funds" in their rooms when needed.
If hidden for the purpose of pecking, eating normally is okay, only when it is too rough and used for spending money, wrong as "fed Nhi Nhi" should be condemned. That's why, when it comes to the word "black fund", sisters think that it's negative. For men, but for women, the "black fund" has a completely different meaning.
I have a friend who has been playing with each other from childhood to grandchildren for over twenty years. She was gentle and agile, so it was difficult to study at the university since she was conscious of saving, making more money to accumulate a financial called "ballistic bag". At school, she went to work for two more years to get married. Thought about the house and then own is the same so she naively listens to her husband, steeped in the amount of savings (also nearly a hundred million) into the joint account of the couple to use mathematical computing, business. She did not expect, in less than a year, her husband secretly stealing all the money in the joint account (including his wife's own money and the money they both save) to take football betting, also secretly back and forth with one of you doing the same company. My friend cannot bear the shock so five times seven times for a divorce. The official day is not what each other, she cried: "Fortunately not have children together, but now I am white hand, I crank off my efforts. I fell tears watching you, shut your mouth do not have to say a blame: "You are so crazy, women do not starve a small black funds room at one time, who can change the heart. But money is not. "
Later, she was fortunate to "walk away" with a wealthy man. After a long time seeing you, I was amazed at the great change you made. No longer a gentlewoman, easy to believe people, devour the liver for anyone else. My friend is mature, mature, sharp personality and appearance. She confessed that the present life is quite happy, two people make money but her financial management. In addition to clever spending, to save money in a transparent account with her husband, she also secretly to spend a separate amount to protect the body. She said that since this "black fund" suddenly felt more secure in the heart and more confident in front of her husband or anyone else. No more afraid to be silver, must bow or suddenly one day all money dissolved, white hand left home again. Because there was a secret financial rescue, as motivation to continue to live and fight persistence.
Many people tell women to hide black funds as the way my girlfriend is doing is really the same as the men who sneakily do shameless, ugly! I personally do not agree. I am a woman and I understand why my friends change their minds and actions. You try to think. The woman was born very miserable. Getting married as well as the gamble, luck is happy, happy, risky, tasted the betrayal, bitter to get bitter. Instead of being doomed to failure, why do not you own your life? Why not keep up with at least a way back to prevent the bad situation.
Never put your trust in someone. It is possible to live sincerely but absolutely not easy, do not exhaust all the bowels exposed to others, the more not to tear up all the wealth of the self to others and spend all. At all costs to give yourself a little something worth not only economic but also in the soul. Missed at some time, deceived, betrayed, not too surprised, not too passive, unexpected. Can stay in recovery time. That is how you respect yourself, live smart, meaning, responsibility.
Stop thinking "black fund" is bad. The black fund is only bad when you use it for the wrong purpose. In contrast, "black funds" have quite a number of benefits:
1- Helping women to be financially self-reliant. When there are critical jobs that require money, do not hesitate to think, waiting for feedback or consent of the husband. Do not worry her face heavy light.
2 - Feel confident, love life better. You can buy something you like ... without worrying about the overall financial impact of both.
3 - "Black Fund" mainly set up rooms at the airport, rescue emergency. So, if the family is really quiet at the end of life, then that money is like your secret wealth and also the family. Once you do not use it, you can leave your child for me, too!
4 - Women make "black funds" for positive purposes, not as negative as the majority of men. And should think for a moment, for men to set up "black funds" in an equal way. Exemption from the "black fund" is not for the purpose of playing evil or raising a mistress.
The last word is to say, the wise woman just looks at the pocket money is know. A little "black fund" kept for themselves completely not greed, selfishness, pragmatism but a way to improve self-worth, enhance self-confidence, self-control in life. After all, if other people understand the value of what you are doing, then they deserve to be your precious.