I try to avoid topics about childhood struggles and difficulties for many reasons, one of the reasons being the fact that my childhood wasn’t all fun and sweet like some kids out there born with sliver spoons in their mouth, but then i am still thankful because the privilege and opportunities i had back then, some of my mates never had a taste of it, at least i had some beautiful childhood memories and experiences. This is why i am always thankful whenever i look many years back. Different struggles and challenges kept on coming but then we were able to pull through it together and that too as a family, and today we are here with a heart full of thanks and gratitude…
What is life without different level of struggles, difficulties and hardships, in-fact these things are the building blocks that clearly defines what life is all about. There’s no man on earth without one or two life challenges, even the rich and famous aren’t excluded, this is to tell you that life is a mixture of good and bad, smooth and rough and many other things…
There is no doubt that we all have had our own different shares of problem in the past, especially in our younger years(childhood), thanks to our super parents, life was made good and better for us through their hard work, unending sacrifice and utmost effort to give us a much more better life than the one they had. Is it the midnight tears, midnight prayers, weekly church programs or the nonstop fasting and prayer, all these just to make life better and easier for us their future…
As kids our parents never had to tell either in writing or word for word that they are going through one or two challenges before we figure it out, they never had to tell us about their struggles before we find out by ourselves. No parents would want their child or children to be unhappy, even when they are unhappy they try their very best not to put it on their face because they don’t want their kids to question them. They will rather fight those battles silently while making sure we live our best lives…
On different occasions did my parents try to hide their struggles from us their kids and countless times did we catch them in the act, this is because we are old enough to understand the littlest of things. We are in our youthful prime, we know the normal mood of our parents, the littlest change in their mood will be observed by us and that will lead to grade 1 questioning. We might not have found out about it if were around 2-5 years, but then not for someone who is almost approaching a teenage age and above…
Challenges and difficulties push us to do different things, both intentionally and unintentionally, this is why i won’t blame any parent who sits his or her child or children down and explains to them whatever struggles they might be facing at the moment. Some parents do this because some kids are just too much, they will expose you to the world when their needs aren’t met, and such things can be annoying, but then telling your child about your struggles should be age dependent. You can’t sit a 1-5 year old child down and start telling him or her about your struggles, no! never….
It will be understandable if the children are a little above 10 years old. This is still reasonable and that should not happen in all cases, this should only happen if your child or children is the type to expose you to the world if he or she doesn’t get what they want…
In summary, i don't know which is better between exposing a child to his family struggles at very early age and not doing it all, this is because i know how children of nowadays can be, they can always be a pain in the neck, some parents do that out of frustration and fear but then some kids are just too brilliant to figure it out on their own…
In conclusion, being age specific when it comes to revealing ones struggles to one’s child is not totally bad, but then we need to consider other factors. Any sensible and attentive child will be able to sense or tell clearly when his or her parents is struggling with something, especially if the parents involved is the type that shows it through body or facial reaction, any child will find out in that case. This is why i can’t give a fixed age for something like this, many factors contribute to it…
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