Life is beautiful and peaceful if one wanted it. I have had quite lots of experiences that had changed my perspective on life generally. Anyone will these mindsets like mine will surely live a peaceful life without having to feel bad or regret any of his or her decisions or actions.
Mindsets to possess
No feeling of entitlement is one of the mindset to possess for healthy living and a happy life. With this mindset, you won't be offended in anyone. Many thinks they owe people for helping them in one way or the other in the journey of their lives and they expect the same favor from them in return. Just as the saying, "one good turn deserves another", this statement is so rooted in some people's mind coupled with the African mentality that when you help someone ,they must return the favor in double folds. A scenario occur that opened my eyes to see that no matter the good being rendered to someone it doesn't makes one entitled to them. They owe you no favor despite rendering help to them when they needed it the most.
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A good heart doesn't attract good people. Here is another mindset to possess, and this is what most people find it difficult to believe. I was once in a position where I do claim and weep on how I'm being treated by people I care about despite my good and kind heart but not anymore. Sometimes last year, my parents rendered an assistance to a lady in my church giving her a sum of money for her medical surgery. At the end, some manipulation sets in from another person right in the church and they both connived and started defaming my parents. It was so bad that at some point my parents were regretting helping that lady. I grew up with the learning that a good heart attracts good people but in that case, I realised a good heart doesn't always attract good people.
Honesty pays the most, it is good to be honest, infact I am a preacher of honesty but in this life, it doesn't work as we all expected. Honest people gets to be in more trouble than those who are not. In this generation honesty no longer pays the most. People now prefer to listen and believe lies than the truth turning the honest ones into liars while the liars roam around freely. The most important thing right now is for individual to follow their hearts and believes what he or she chooses to believe.
Minding one's business is a major happy pills. Many go about with the mindset of what will people say or think about them when they should be focusing on themselves. Overtime, I get to understand that one way to be happy is self priority. Doing things that makes one happy is the most important happy pills. With time I was able to understand that no matter what one do, people will never be satisfied. Knowing this, I refuse to love myself less. I do things that makes me happy irrespective of what people say.
All these mindsets are rules that are no longer applicable. We are in a generation where the world is fast growing and it makes the world more unreliable. Life changes so also are the people in it. Why going about solving other's problems and forsaking one's happiness.
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