When people are by our side, we do not evaluate them properly, we do not try to understand their importance, we think that what will happen if we give so much importance to the person who is by our side, he is not going anywhere. But when he leaves suddenly, we understand how heartbreaking that moment was when we were there, when we could not evaluate him. Then his importance is not understood properly. Or no one even tries to understand that our loved ones are always by our side, it is natural, but we should not forget this, we all have to say goodbye from this world, at any moment we will say goodbye in the afterlife, so try to keep your loved ones close to you at every moment of life. If you consider everything as your own, everyone will never become your own. Your loved ones never hurt you, but some people hurt you so much that you can never imagine. Let's assume that they are there.
But once she leaves, she never comes back because she has made her own place somewhere else, maybe if she is alive, she is constantly busy trying to change herself because the neglect she received from you helped her change. People don't change just like that. I have heard some people say that women change just like that. Well, tell me one thing, why does a woman change? You are responsible for taking care of the person you marry and bring into your home. It is your responsibility to keep her well. If you take her to the market, she will cook delicious food. If you give her a little love, she will turn your house into a paradise. But you will neglect her, you will torture her day after day, let alone love her. You will always hurt her for her small weakness. If she makes a mistake, you will hurt her and make a big deal out of it, then won't she change?
When you hurt him, everything seems empty to him, that's what keeps him clinging to you, but you try to be better without him. You always like to give time to your friends. You value your parents' words a lot. Do you know one thing? A girl's parents never give their daughter to a boy just for the sake of maintenance. A girl's parents marry her so that she can spend her later life in peace and happiness. You married her not just for enjoyment. She is not an object of enjoyment. Rather, she is an object to keep your family beautifully organized. If you give her a little love, you will see that your life will already be better. You will not need anything else. There is perhaps nothing in this world that can be as peaceful as accompanying a person on the right path.
Suddenly, I realized that the person I neglected was the person I loved the most in my life, but your sudden thought doesn't matter anymore because the person who tried to change, tried to get himself together after being neglected, won't try to come to you again because he understood that you are neglecting him, that you are insulting him, he is trying to ask for respect from you again and again, you never have to ask for respect or rights. He gives what he has to give, and he will never give you what he doesn't have to give. You have to pay a price to stay, there is no point in paying a price when a brother leaves.
Even if you try, some people cannot be held, do you know the reason for this because when they valued you, you neglected them, now even if you try a thousand times, they will not come back to you. No matter how hard you try to hold them, they will not want to be with you anymore because they have changed a lot to get neglected from you. That gold can be given various types of diseases after burning. Just like when people burn and become corrupt, but they try to build their lives differently, this is the reality. Once they are gone, only memories remain
and a silent burden on the left side of the chest. After they are gone, if you think that they were the most important person in your life, then why didn't you value staying?
Some people don't change just like that. When you start ignoring them, they start changing. The first day you ignored them, they didn't say anything. The second day you ignored them, they realized that you are better off without money. The third day you ignored them, they realized that you are better off without them. So they left you because they love you more than themselves and they want you to be better off without them. Since you were able to be good in the past, you can still be good. But after they left, you realized how much space they had in your life. But now there is no point in understanding them because once they leave, they will never come back.
Do not neglect anyone, try to respect everyone, young or old, remember one thing, when you respect and honor people, Allah will give you your respect, so do not say anything by neglecting anyone in this world. Allah created the people on the side of the road, Allah also created the people in the palace, Allah tests someone by giving them and takes them from someone, refrain from neglecting someone, when you neglect someone excessively, that person will change in a way that you will never imagine. So refrain from thinking these thoughts, try to make life a little better, if life is beautiful, you will also be able to live beautifully.